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Introduction

Here’s a question for all the guys out there: How many times have you looked at your girlfriend, sister, mother or any other woman and wondered, “What is going on inside her head?!”

It’s no secret that women have a way of confounding men with their mysterious behavior. I’m a woman, and I’d be the first to admit this! Often, women will say things that may be completely unintelligible to guys. Or they’ll be thinking something and expecting their guy to just read their minds. We all know what that leads to, right?

Men and women sometimes seem to be speaking two different languages and just like with any other language barrier, sometimes you need a translator to step in and help out. Well, that’s exactly what I’m here to do. Dozens maybe hundreds of apps have already been written on the question of how men and women can learn to communicate better, but none of them tell you all the secrets I am going to give you here.

This is a very unusual and much needed app, because it contains hundreds of specific and proven tips about how to make your relationship with the special woman in your life a healthy, long-lasting and happy one. Most relationship apps contain lots of abstract theories about what makes a good relationship. They give you exercises to perform with your partner. But that’s all baloney! Exercises don’t work and theories can’t help you out when all you really need to know is: what is the woman in my life thinking right now? How can I learn to understand her and her feelings?

You need specific advice, and that’s why I have written this app. I have been through it all—all the uncertainty, the fights, the break-ups, the singles scene—and now I’m in a committed and very satisfying relationship with the love of my life. I give advice to thousands of people about how to improve their relationships and become closer to their loved ones. I know firsthand what works between men and women, and I want to pass all that knowledge over to you.

If you’re a single guy and you just can’t understand how to get a date with a great girl, then this app is for you. I will reveal dozens of secrets about what girls are looking for when they are out with their friends and on the singles scene, and what causes them to give a guy a second look—or even a phone number. I’ll give you advice about how to ask a girl out on a date in a way that will make her swoon.

If you’ve already landed a great girl and you want to know how to keep her interested in you, I’ve got you covered! I remember exactly what it was like to be at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend, and I am going to tell you everything you need to know in order to make your gal feel loved, respected and satisfied.

This app contains tips about what kinds of dates she will like, what kinds of gifts you may want to get her, how to know what she means when she says things like, “So, you’re going out with the guys again, huh?” and “Oh, we don’t have to do something for Valentine’s Day.”

I also remember all those not-so-great guys and how they treated me when we started dating, so I’m going to make sure you don’t repeat their mistakes!

And if you’ve been dating the same girl for a while and are thinking about how to take the next step, look no further than this app! I’m going to tell you everything you need to know about what she’s probably feeling and how to get her to commit to you. I’ll explain how to tell if she’s getting antsy about getting a ring, and I’ll give you advice about proposals she will absolutely love and remember fondly forever.

If you have questions about pick-up lines, dating, romance, sex, commitment or marriage, this app has all your answers—500 of them, in fact! This is required reading for every guy who loves a girl, so read on if you want to learn everything about girls a guy could hope to know!

How to Meet a Great Girl and Get Her to Start Dating You

I talk to a lot of men who really want to meet a great girl and set off on a rewarding relationship, but they don’t know where to start. I see dozens of sweet, nice, lovely men who have so much energy and affection to give, but they don’t know how to find a girlfriend in the first place. In this section I’m going to give you twenty-five secrets and “instructions” that are guaranteed to help you find a wonderful girl who is just right for you.

1) Exude confidence.

Women immediately go for men who appear independent and self-confident. Men who are secure about who they are look instantly appealing to a single gal. Even if you don’t feel that confident, fake it! Once you see the responses you start getting, you’ll feel as confident as you appear!

2) Be well-groomed.

Women get really turned off by men who are sloppy, messy or dirty. That shows a lack of self-respect and a lack of self-confidence. Get a haircut, shave, brush your teeth, use floss and mouthwash, and slap on that deodorant after you shower!

3) Women tend to be very aroused by pleasant scents, so wear a nice cologne.

If you want a woman to lean in close to you and lay her hand on your, you’d better smell nice! Women have a very sensitive sense of smell, so go out and get a subtle cologne. Don’t douse yourself in it, though! Remember, moderation is key. You want to smell good, not like a perfume factory.

4) Dress well.

Now, I’m not saying that you have to wear expensive clothes. I’m just saying that women tend to like clothing and fashion, and we’re going to notice what you have on. If you look like you’ve just rolled out of bed, if you’re wearing torn jeans and a threadbare tee-shirt, that’s not going to impress us. Iron your shirt, wear a nice pair of shoes, and please don’t wear white socks with black pants!

5) If you’re no Brad Pitt, don’t worry!

Did you know that women are more interested in a man’s sense of confidence than they are in his looks or even his money? Just make sure that you are dressed neatly and are well-groomed, and that you exude charisma and confidence. You don’t have to be the most handsome man in the room as long as you feel sure of yourself.

6) Don’t set your sights on a woman who is probably not going to be interested in you.

This is where you have to be realistic. Like I said, women aren’t necessarily attracted to a man based on how handsome he is, but women, like men, are usually attracted to “types”—for example, the tall, dark and handsome type, or the blonde, athletic type. If you are a short, dark-haired man and you see a woman who is surrounded by tall, blonde men, the chances are that you are just not her type.

7) Don’t sit in a corner and expect the women to come to you.

Most men I talk to are afraid of getting rejected—well, don’t be! Women are often really flattered when men come up to them and express interest. But the key here is to be respectful and not to use a cheesy pick-up line (more on this later). The bottom line is, go out and give it a shot. Go talk to a woman who looks appealing to you. Chances are she’ll be glad you came over to chat. And if she isn’t, or if she says no, what have you lost? Not a thing! Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained!

8) Show that you are polite and thoughtful.

If you’re at a bar, offer to buy the girl a drink. If you’re at a singles mixer event where there’s food, offer to go over to the food table and get her a snack. If you are online at the supermarket, offer to let her go ahead of you, or help her carry her groceries to her car. Do whatever is appropriate to indicate that you’re a nice, gentlemanly guy.

9) Laugh!

Don’t take the whole singles scene so seriously. If you sit in a corner brooding over your next move or worrying about what to say, you’ll come across as unhappy and kind of creepy. Women want to talk to men who look like they are enjoying themselves and have a fun life. Laugh and show those pearly whites!

10) Don’t be too aggressive, because this will turn a woman off.

There is a fine line between “confident man” and “jerk.” Women like it when you are sure of yourself, but we hate it when men act like they are God’s gift. Don’t act too macho or too cocky.

11) Steer clear of those cheesy pickup lines.

A lot of men tell me that they resort to pickup lines because they just don’t know what else to say to a woman they have just met. Well, if you use a pickup line, chances are that the woman you’re talking to will think that you are unoriginal and a little silly. We would much rather here you say something honest and sincere than resort to a line that’s been used a million times before. A simple, “Hi, I’m John,” or whatever your name is, will go a lot farther towards impressing a girl than, “Hey baby, heaven must be missing an angel.”

12) Don’t be uncouth.

Some guys seem to think it’s hilarious to belch loudly in a restaurant or bar or to talk about bodily functions in public. That is NOT something you should be doing in front of a girl you’ve just met for the first time. Be on your best behavior—women know that boys will be boys, but we’re much more likely to go over and talk to a guy who seems mature.

13) Be a good conversational partner.

Women want to know that you are listening to them and paying attention to what they are saying. Trust me on this! If your eyes glaze over or you turn and look at the leggy beauty who’s standing behind the woman you’re talking to, you’ve just blown your chances. Pay attention and stay engaged in the conversation. Ask questions and respond to any questions she asks you.

14) Awkward pauses at this stage spell disaster.

After you’ve gotten to know someone well, a silence can be a nice thing to share. But when you’ve just met a women, standing there tongue-tied without anything to say can be embarrassing and a big turn-off. A woman will find it unattractive if you appear awkward and tongue-tied. Keep the conversation going by always having a “safety” question to ask. Make it something simple and nonspecific, such as “Where did you go to school?,” “Where do you work?,” “Are you here with friends?,” or even “Did you see that new movie, [some recent flick]?” Just have some comment in your back pocket that you can pull out if you are in dire need for something to say.

15) Give out sincere compliments.

Once you have met a girl and you’re engaged in a conversation, talk about some aspect of her that you find attractive. Of course, be tasteful! Don’t compliment her “rack” or her “booty.” Women love it when you compliment us on our hair, our smiles, our sense of humor, and so on. Be sincere—don’t compliment something that you don’t really find attractive, or the woman you’re talking to will be able to tell that you’re lying just to snag her phone number.

16) Use her first name.

You know what gets really old? Being called “chick” or “honey” or “sweet lips” or whatever. When you meet a girl, make it a point to listen to her name when she introduces herself, and COMMIT IT TO MEMORY! Then, when you’re talking to her, use her name wherever is appropriate: “So, Jane, can I buy you another drink?” “Wow, you’ve had such an interesting life, Sharon!” This is a really simple and effective way to impress the girl you’re with.

17) Get out of the bar and have fun doing your own hobbies.

If the bar or pickup scene has not been working for you, or if that’s just not your cup of tea, one of the best ways to meet a great gal is simply to enjoy some of the activities you love. Do you love to read? Go to a book reading at your local bookstore. Enjoy coffee? Get a cappuccino and sit and read the Sunday paper at your favorite local café. Do you love baseball? Go to a sporting event with your buddies. This is a great way to meet people who you know like some of the same things as you—you already have something in common. And you know what? Women will probably respond to you better in these scenarios than in a bar because they won’t feel like they’re in a meat market!

18) Don’t stare at the woman you want to talk to.

If you see a woman you find attractive, don’t ogle her! That will only creep her out. Instead, one of the most seductive things you can do is glance at her just for a second or two, then look away. Wait a little bit, then glance over at her again. She will probably catch your eye at some point; if she smiles, go over and say hello. This kind of playful eye contact is much more fun and effective than staring.

19) Women respect men who are honest.

If you just want a one-night stand, it might be wise to get this out in the open before you wind up hurting anyone’s feelings. It’s never a good idea to string a woman along and then drop her later; you’ve got to be upfront and honest from the start.

20) Don’t lie in order to get a girl to like you or agree to go on a date with you.

If a woman says something that you really disagree with, don’t just nod along because she’s hot or you want to get her phone number. Ultimately, you’ll just ruin things when she finds out you’re not the guy she thought you were. Be honest from the beginning and you’ll assure yourself that you only end up with women who are right for you. That will save you a lot of trouble in the end.

21) Don’t invade a woman’s personal space.

If you want to meet a woman you’ve seen from afar, or if you’ve actually managed to engage her in conversation, the last thing you want to do is get too close and make her feel physically uncomfortable. Some guys think it is sweet or affectionate to rub the arm of a woman they’ve just met, or to stroke their hair or cheek. Well, let me tell you that women don’t respond well to being touched in intimate ways by men they have just met! Be respectful if you want to have a chance with this girl!

22) Women will walk away from a man who is too threatening or desperate.

Make it your goal in the meet-and-greet phase to come across as non- threatening and casual. This is because women immediately get turned off by men who seem to be too pushy or aggressive in trying to get a phone number or asking a girl out on a date. Instead of just rushing in and demanding a woman’s digits, take the time to get to know her. Talk to her for a bit before you ask for her number or email. That will make you seem much more interested and

23) The reason women hesitate to give out their phone numbers is because that would mean giving up control over whether or not you call.

If she doesn’t really want to give out her personal information but seems interested in you, give her your number or email address. Women love to feel that they have control over the situation, and having your contact information gives them that control.

24) Don’t approach every woman as though she has to be “the one.”

Don’t take it all so seriously! Just have fun, and look at the singles scene as a chance to meet some great people who have lots of things in common with you. Looking at it from this perspective will make dating a heck of a lot more fun for you, and as I’ve already said, it’s fun, confident, self-assured men who attract the most women!

25) Most women who are looking for a good, healthy relationship aren’t going to go home and sleep with a guy they’ve just met.

Lots of men have this fantasy of meeting a woman in a bar and having sex with her that very night. Well, get with the reality of the situation! Women want to get to know a man before they get serious, so respect that and don’t force anything.

What to Do on Your First Date

So you’ve met a great girl and you have her number (or maybe she has yours). You think this is going to be a great relationship—the trick is how to get it started on the right foot. The first date counts for a lot, so make sure you make a strong effort to show your date just how much you want to make it a pleasant experience. The following twenty-five tips will help you do just that!

26) If a woman is interested in you and has given you her phone number, she is going to be very eager for your call—so don’t make her wait!

You’ve probably heard girls joke about “waiting by the phone” for a guy to call. Well, obviously women have their own lives and don’t spend all their time sitting around waiting for a man to pick up the phone! But it is true that women tend to devote a lot of energy to thinking about when a man will call or why he hasn’t already called. If you’ve gotten a woman’s number and have told her that you will call, call within a few days at most. Don’t make her wait for weeks and weeks.

27) Your date will know by your date invitation whether or not you paid attention to what she said she likes.

Let’s say that when you first met this girl at a bar, she spent an half-hour talking about how much she loves films. It would be a great idea for you to ask her out to the movies for your first date. If she told you she likes classics, look through your local newspapers to see if there are any revivals playing nearby. By paying attention to what she tells you, you can easily figure out what would make a great and memorable first date.

28) Know that your date will be checking out your appearance, so put some effort into it.

Unless your first date is taking place in a barn—and I hope it’s not—don’t show up in a tee-shirt and grimy old cut-off jeans. Put some thought into your appearance, and pick out a nice outfit that you feel comfortable in. A nice shirt and tie and a clean, pressed pair of pants are a good bet for a casual dinner. If you are in doubt, ask a female friend for advice. Girls have a tendency to scan for information about your character based on the way you dress and how you carry yourself! Yes! Their brains are constantly working that hard during her date with you. So, be sure to make use of her strength to your advantage if you want to capture her heart.

29) Grooming is important, too!

Not only is your date going to be checking out your clothes, but she’s going to be paying attention to your grooming, too. Cut your nails, shave, brush your teeth, and put on some nice cologne before you head out the door.

30) Pick her up, or at least offer to.

It’s a nice, romantic gesture to offer to pick your date up from her home. She’ll be impressed if you ask.

31) Girls take longer than guys to get ready, so be prepared for a little delay.

If you arrive at your date’s house and she’s still getting ready, just go with the flow. Girls generally tend to take longer to get ready to go out than their male counterparts, so don’t be rude or impatient. Just try and take it in stride. Don’t yell at her to hurry up. If you are really pressed for time, gently remind her that you have reservations, and then offer to call to push them back. She’ll get the hint, and you’ll come off looking like a gentleman.

32) Women tend to be self-conscious about how they look, so compliment her on her appearance.

Now that you know that women tend to spend a longer time than you getting ready, you probably understand that it’s important to compliment your date on how she looks. Pick a feature that she seems proud of or that you really think is attractive, and then say something nice about it: “Your hair really looks beautiful” or “You look fantastic in that dress.” Or, just a simple “You look wonderful tonight” will do the trick nicely.

33) Girls love flowers!

A lot of guys don’t do this anymore, but it’s sweet gesture that will really make your date think you’re a gentleman.

34) Regardless of what you may have heard, chivalry is not dead!

Women still expect and like it when you are romantic and respectful, at least on the first few dates. Opening doors, offering to pick up the check, and pulling out her chair at dinner are all little ways you can show that you’re a real gentleman.

35) Don’t monopolize the conversation

Don’t do all the talking! Make sure you ask questions and let your date get in on the conversation.

36) Women don’t like hearing you talk about your ex.

Nothing is less of a new relationship killer than talking constantly about your ex-girlfriend. Your date doesn’t want to hear all about your last relationship; she wants you to focus on this one! If things get serious, you’ll probably end up discussing past relationships later on, but your first date is NOT the time or place!

37) Steer clear of any discussions that could make your date feel uncomfortable.

Now may not be the time to go on a rant about religion or politics, even if you feel really passionate about those topics. Unless you have a specific rule, like you don’t want to date someone outside your own religion or with a different political affiliation, these are topics best left for another time.

38) Women are very observant, and they will notice if you aren’t paying full attention to them.

Now don’t freak out your date by constantly staring at her, but don’t look down into your food the whole time or gaze around at all the hot women walking by. Maintain good eye contact with your date to show that you are really into her.

39) Women will pick up on your body language, so watch how you sit and behave.

Glancing at your watch, crossing your arms or fidgeting all give off the sign that you are not into your date and just want to get the heck out of there! Well, if that’s really the case, fine; but if you like this girl, be careful not to accidentally give off physical signs that you just aren’t that into her! Remember, women are very observant and will notice things like this!

40) Women get turned off really quickly when you talk or even joke about things that they find offensive.

Don’t talk about your stash of dope or that time you hit a cat with your car. If you offend her on the first date, you can bet that there won’t be a second date!

41) Don’t get too physical right away.

If you’re at a movie or walking through the park, and you feel comfortable with your date, it may be nice to take her hand gently. But don’t grope her bottom or try to jam your tongue in her mouth on a first date! Women hate that kind of brute forwardness, so keep it buttoned up!

42) Women hate posturing and phoniness.

Don’t project an aura of something you are not. If you’re a nice guy, don’t try to act like a macho dude, even if you think that’s what girls want. You’ll just come across as a phony.

43) Show her that you care—women like to be asked questions that pertain to their interests and lives.

For instance, ask her about a book she’s been reading recently. Ask what her favorite hobbies are. Ask what kinds of food she likes, or what her favorite movie is. If you are stumped for conversation, a good fail-safe is to ask about her family, where she grew up or where she went to school.

44) Regardless of what you may have heard, women still expect you to pay for dinner or at least offer to pay.

I know that a lot of women these days proclaim to be feminists and don’t like to be treated differently, but when it comes to dating, women tend to be a little old-fashioned sometimes. At least offer to pay, and then see how your date reacts. If she stubbornly refuses to let you pay for her, offer to split the bill. If she seems to be okay with you paying, pick up the tab. It makes you look chivalrous and makes her feel taken care of.

45) Women pay attention to what you do (or don’t do) at the end of the date, too.

It’s not just first impressions that count. What you do at the end of the date is going to leave a lasting impression as well as what you did at the beginning. When you get up to leave—whether you’re at a restaurant or a movie or whatever—try and be chivalrous. Get up and help her out of her chair, get her coat and help her into it, open the door on the way out, and so on. Your date will really appreciate your thoughtfulness.

46) If the date went well—and if it did, you’ll feel it—your girl is probably going to want a goodnight kiss.

Yes, the first-date goodnight kiss can be a nice way to end things, but you need to make sure that’s what she wants. If she lingers at her door or touches your arm or smiles at you while staring into your eyes, you’re good to go! Just make it a nice sweet kiss and not a full-on tongue-swapping session.

47) If it doesn’t seem like she wants a kiss, don’t force it.

Sometimes girls are shy, or maybe the date just wasn’t that great and she doesn’t want a kiss. If this is the case, you’re better off just avoiding the issue, otherwise she might get annoyed. If she’s not smiling or not making any physical contact, or if she seems eager to get back home and is checking her watch, just let things alone and don’t try to force a kiss.

48) Don’t expect sex.

Most women won’t want to sleep with you on the first date. Don’t get your hopes up. Enough said.

49) If you say you will call, don’t take your sweet time.

Women tend to run home from a date and check their messages to see if you’ve called or emailed. Now, I’m not saying you should call right after you leave the restaurant; but if you like the women and you want to keep seeing her, don’t play it cool. Call the next day to say how much you enjoyed the time you spent together. Don’t wait a week to show how “macho” you are, because that will just make your date incredibly angry and hurt.

50) Women are just as eager to get things going as men.

Know that when you call after the first date, she will probably be expecting you to ask her out on another date, so be prepared and have a few options in mind.

Top 50 Female Relationship Wants and Needs

Relationship 101

Now that we’ve talked about meeting a girl and what to do (and what to avoid) on the first date, it’s time to talk about what to expect from your fledgling relationship.

Once things get off the ground and you go on your second, third, and fourth dates, you can consider yourself “in a relationship.” But, as you probably know, women and men tend to have very different ideas about what constitutes a relationship. That can lead to a lot of potential disagreement—and who wants that??

Moreover, women have a lot of misconceptions about what men want, and men have a lot of misconceptions about what they think women want. This section is meant to clear up a lot of that confusion!

Remember, guys tend to be a lot more easy-going, but women scrutinize every little detail. Therefore, if you want things to go along smoothly, it’s important to be sensitive to what she wants in a relationship. Read on to learn what women want—and need!

Top 50 Female Relationship Wants and Needs (yes there are at least 50!):

51) Women want someone who is a good listener.

This is perhaps one of the most important needs a women has when she gets into a relationship. If a man does not want to listen to her or does not seem interested in what she has to say, the relationship is not going to be a healthy or happy one.

52) Women want a man who will listen and respond without the woman having to ask for him to listen and respond.

Now this goes along with the previous “want.” Not only do women like it when a man take the time to really listen to her, but they love it when a man does so without being asked. So next time it seems like your girlfriend or spouse is troubled or wants to have a conversation, don’t wait until she sits you down for a talk. Go to her and ask her if she needs to get anything off her chest.

53) Women want someone who is a good conversationalist.

It’s important that you don’t just sit there and let your girlfriend or wife talk AT you. You’ve got to respond, nod, offer your opinion, and show that you are actively listening and considering what she is saying. Remember, a conversation involves two people who participate in equal measure.

54) Women want someone who is open when it comes to his feelings and emotions.

Women themselves tend to be in touch with their emotions, and they want men who are able to do the same. Don’t be afraid to show her your true inner feelings, even if you aren’t used to doing so.

55) Women want someone who is honest.

Lying is a real turn-off, from small lies like how much money you make at work to big lies like adultery or how many times you’ve already been married. Just be honest, guys; your girl will respect you for it.

56) Women want someone to share their dreams and hopes with.

Women love being able to talk about what they want in life, and it is important to them to be in a relationship with someone who is able to share those ambitions. Be a supporter of your girlfriend’s or wife’s dreams.

57) A woman wants a man who has his own hopes and dreams.

Attractive men are the ones who have ambitions in life and are working to attain them.

58) Women want someone to discuss their fears with.

Women often see men as protectors, and they like to know that their man is someone who can help them overcome their fears.

59) Women want a man who is willing to talk about problems in order to solve them.

Women know that problems don’t solve themselves; you’ve got to address them. Therefore, they want to be in relationships with men who share a similar view and who understand that sometimes it is necessary to talk things out rather than ignoring them.

60) Women want men who are willing to say they are wrong.

Men tend to refuse to take blame for anything and may deny that they are wrong, even when the evidence is right there for all to see. That is so frustrating to women. Just fess up—everyone, even men, makes mistakes from time to time!

61) Women want a man who demonstrates his commitment to the relationship.

Men shouldn’t have to give up their own lives, but they should be willing to stay home some Friday nights to spend time with their girlfriend or wife instead of going out with the guys all the time. Women need men to demonstrate their commitment to the relationship and who aren’t always out doing other things.

62) Women want someone who is willing to be monogamous.

At the very beginning of a relationship, both women and men may not yet be ready to stop seeing other people. But as the relationship progresses step by step, women start wanting monogamy, so you’ve got to make sure you’re both on the same page. If she thinks you’re being monogamous and then finds out that you’re dating three other women, there will be hell to pay!

63) Women want a man who values fidelity and loyalty.

Again, women tend to view men as protectors, and so they want a man who will make them feel secure. A man who is disloyal or who cheats destroys that sense of trust and security.

64) Women want men who are moral and ethical.

A man who does things that are illegal or borderline inappropriate is not a good candidate for a lasting relationship.

65) Women want someone who thinks beyond today and has hopes about the future of the relationship.

A man who never plans ahead and won’t commit to a weekend away or a standing Saturday night date is not a good candidate for a long-term relationship. If a women feels that a man does not want to think about their future together, she will likely want to get out of the relationship.

66) Women want someone who is honest with himself and who is secure.

If a man is constantly questioning himself or worried about who he is or whether he’s good enough, that’s a real turn-off. Remember, one of the number-one qualities of attractive men is confidence!

67) A woman wants a man who is able to focus completely on her at important moments.

That means turning off the TV during sex and not looking around at other women when you’re out at dinner.

68) Women like men who can be fun and playful, and who aren’t just serious and businesslike all the time.

Don’t be afraid to be silly and show her how fun and creative you are.

69) Women like men who show their affection.

Don’t be afraid to say “I love you” or to hold her hand in public.

70) Women want someone who is ambitious and going somewhere in his career.

That doesn’t mean you have to be rich or a CEO. All it means is that you should have career goals and be actively working to attain them. Men who don’t know what they want out of their lives or careers are not very attractive to most women.

71) Women want to be financially secure.

Again, this doesn’t mean you need to be a millionaire. But you do need to be financially secure yourself and not overwhelmed by debt or an extravagant buyer who spends more than he earns.

72) Women want a man who is generous, but not a spendthrift.

Women love to get gifts from time to time, and they enjoy being with a man who is able to appreciate the finer things in life. At the same time, they don’t want a man to throw away his money on useless things.

73) Women don’t want men who are unnecessarily tight-fisted.

Women don’t like men who are cheap. They want a man who knows when to spend and when to save.

74) Women want men who are sometimes impulsive and surprising.

A man who plans everything out is a dull husband or boyfriend. A man who surprises his girl from time to time with gifts, a fun date, or even by bringing home a rented video unexpectedly, is considered a great catch.

75) Women want men who have their own lives, too.

Contrary to what you may think, women like to have some time alone, and they value men who have their own friends and have a life outside the relationship, too.

76) Women need men who are responsible.

A man who behaves more like a child is not good husband or boyfriend material.

77) Women want men who they can trust.

Guys who constantly betray trust or who lie, even about small things, are not the kind of guys who make it in long-term relationships with great women.

78) Women want men who are on the same page in terms of what they want in their common future.

For example, if you want children and she doesn’t, that’s a problem. Women like to know that their man has similar hopes and dreams.

79) Women don’t want men who are dependent or needy.

Show that you have your own interests, hobbies and friends, and pursue them actively.

80) Women want someone is good to their friends and family.

Women love it when a guy is polite to strangers, nice to their friends, and makes an effort to be courteous and respectful of their family.

81) Women need men who show them they are special.

Little things count: bringing home a single rose for no particular reason, cooking dinner for her one night, or just telling her how great she is all show her how much you care and value the relationship.

82) Women want romance, not just sex.

Men sometimes think sex equals romance, but women need to be wooed a little bit more. Men who light candles, buy roses, or start things off with a lot of gentle kissing are more likely to win over a girl’s heart.

83) Women love it when men help out around the house.

Guys who pitch in to clean up, do the dishes, and help with the laundry are considered great catches.

84) Women like it when guys take an equal role in planning out dates and special occasions.

Why should women have to be the ones to say they want to go out for Valentine’s Day or to go away for a romantic weekend? Women love it when their guys make the suggestions.

85) Women want men who share some interests.

You don’t have to have everything in common, but show your woman that you appreciate what she is into. For example, if she likes museums, ask her to go with you to a museum one weekend.

86) Women want men who speak up if they are upset.

Men have a reputation for being stoic and silent, and women really find it touching when a man speaks up about his feelings.

87) Women love witty men.

Laughing is an aphrodisiac, so it’s no wonder women need to be in relationships with men who make them laugh.

88) Women want men who can appreciate their creativity and imagination.

Women love to create something out of nothing! It is a wonderful ability given to them by nature. Give your woman the opportunity to do up the house, decorate a room, recycle unused or old items, or plan an exciting holiday. If you can learn to appreciate her creativity, intelligence and imagination and find ways to make it known to her, she’ll love you for it! The same old thing gets tiring. Men who can come up with new ways to surprise their lovers are, too, greatly appreciated by their women.

89) Women want men who present themselves well.

Appearance isn’t everything, but a relationship goes much more smoothly when a women isn’t constantly criticizing a man about what he’s wearing or how he looks.

90) Women really love men who remember anniversaries, birthdays, etc.

Men tend not to be so good with remembering special occasions, but these kinds of dates are important to women.

91) Women need men who are willing to spend time with their friends and family.

You may not want to hang out with your girlfriend’s pals or with her parents, but it’s important to her that you get to know the people that are important to her.

92) Women want men who share the remote control.

It may sound funny, but it’s true—women need to be in relationship with men who are willing to share things around the house.

93) Women want men who remember to put the toilet seat down.

Enough said!

94) Women want a man who will do thoughtful things without being asked.

She’ll love it if you help her put the groceries away or put gas in the car without having to be reminded.

95) Every woman wants a man who laughs at her jokes.

Show her how funny you think she is!

96) A woman wants a man who takes care of himself.

Go to the gym, shave, eat well, and show that you respect your body and mind just as much as you respect your girl!

97) Women want men who behave themselves in public.

That means not belching, scratching yourself, or getting drunk every time you go out for a nice dinner.

98) Women need men who show how much they care and think about them.

Stay in contact even when you are apart by sending emails or making phone calls.

99) Women want men who like to just be at home together, but who also enjoy a fun night out.

It’s important to feel comfortable hanging out together indoors when no one else is around and out in public.

100) Women need men who really and truly care about them.

If you don’t love the woman you’re with, you’re not doing anyone any favors! Your woman craves more for your time and presence than for your expensive gifts, especially during those special days or events!

What Women Really Mean When They Say….

You probably know that women aren’t 100% truthful 100% of the time.

Okay, but do you know how to tell when your girlfriend or spouse is telling the truth and when she’s fibbing?

Sometimes it can be hard to tell, usually because your girl is probably lying in order to be nice to you. It’s not like she’s telling you a falsehood in order to put one over on you or to trick you; most of the time, women tell little white lies that are meant to make you feel better or to prevent a big argument.

That said, don’t you want to know the truth? After all, one of the easiest and quickest ways to show your girl that you really care is to demonstrate that you understand her needs, even when she’s not telling you directly what they are.

In this section we’ll go over some common lies that women tell men, and what they really mean. Once you understand the real meaning, you can prove to your girl that you know what she really needs and wants, even if she doesn’t say it—or even if she says the exact opposite! And that, my friends, is going to really win her over!

100) Okay, I’m wrong, you’re right.

A lot of times women will just get exhausted by their boyfriend or husband’s stubbornness, and they’ll just say this to avoid further confrontation. She probably still thinks that she’s right and you’re the one who’s wrong—and maybe she has a point. Would it kill you to listen to her? Probably not. Remember, a happy relationship is all about compromise. Both of you can’t win all the time, but you should always make an effort to at least listen to the other’s point of view.

101) I’m a sports nut.

Okay, some women do love sports, but they are few and far between. If your woman says this to you, she’s probably being nice so you’ll bring her along for guys’ night at the local sports bar or so she can spend more time with you on the couch watching the baseball game. Realize that she’s probably exaggerating in order to keep you interested in her, and don’t push her to spend all your free time doing sports-related activities.

102) Don’t worry, I don’t mind cleaning the house.

One of the oldest female stereotypes is that women are supposed to do the housework. Wrong! Women don’t like cleaning up after you, and your girlfriend or wife isn’t your mother. She may be telling you she doesn’t mind in order to avoid a fight or because she’s just super nice, but I can promise you she also wouldn’t mind if it you pitched in and helped her out!

103) Oh yeah, I really enjoy spending time with your friends.

Whether or not she likes your friends, she probably doesn’t want to spend a ton of time with them. Let’s face it, she’d rather have you all to herself, and if you’re like most guys, you probably act differently when you’re with the guys than you act when you’re with her. Don’t force her to hang out with your friends all the time, and respect that she’s not “one of the guys.” So respect her feelings and don’t bring the guys over to your place all the time.

104) Do you think that girl over there is pretty? If you say yes, I won’t get angry.

Don’t fall for it! This is a line girls use to try and get you to tell them how pretty they are. So the only acceptable answer to this is: “No one is as beautiful to me as you.”

105) Your family is great! Sure, we can go to their house again next weekend.

Maybe your girlfriend really does like your family, but that doesn’t mean she wants to spend all her time with them. Learn to separate your relationship from your family life. Compromise so that you spend some family holidays with her family, and some with yours.

106) I love you just the way you are and wouldn’t change you a bit!

Let’s face it: most women are nurturers, and they like giving you advice and helping you change in a positive direction. They enjoy helping you shop for new clothes and might even get offended if you do something drastic, like shave your head, without talking to them about it first.

107) I want your honest opinion: do I look bad in this outfit?

Again, it’s a trap! She’s just asking for your reassurance, so give it to her. If, however, you REALLY think a particular outfit is unflattering, tell her she looks great, but you think she would look even better in something else and then ask her to wear that little black dress of hers that drives you wild.

108) Let’s be friends first.

If a woman tells you this, she doesn’t feel attracted to you in a sexual way, but she probably really likes you and thinks you’re a good person. It can’t hurt to be her friend, as many great relationships grow out of friendships. Sexual attraction IS something that can develop over time.

109) I want us to stay friends.

If you’re breaking up and she tells you she wants to stay friends, it’s probably her way of easing the blow and letting you know that, although things didn’t work out, she thinks you’re a great guy.

Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

One of the most common questions I hear from guys is, “Why do women like bad boys so much?”

Well, I hate to tell you this, but there IS something very attractive about those macho bad boys. Even the smartest, most self-confident women may find themselves getting a little hot under the collar when they see a brawny guy on the back of a motorcycle dressed in black leather.

Or maybe the “bad boy” in question looks like your average nice guy, but he happens to be the kind of person who likes random “hook-ups,” doesn’t call women back, hits on your best friend and leaves town without so much as a note or a good-bye.

Given how these bad boys act, why is it that women still find them attractive? This section should give all the guys out there some clues into this mysterious aspect of women’s behavior!

Why Do Women Go For “Bad Boys”?

110) Women don’t feel as bad cheating on or lying to a guy who is probably cheating on them in the first place.

111) Women tend to enjoy complaining about them to their girlfriends.

112) Women who have low self-esteem may gravitate to bad boys because they treat her the way she feels she deserves to be treated.

113) It’s hard to feel really emotionally invested in a guy you know is a jerk, so you won’t feel as bad when he dumps you—and you know he’s going to dump you if you don’t do it first.

114) Bad boys are confident—and remember, confidence is the number-one

115) Bad boys tend to be really exciting in bed. reason why women are attracted to men!

116) If a bad boy likes you, it raises your self-esteem.

117) Women like “the chase,” and bad boys are rather elusive.

118) A bad boy may bring out a woman’s nurturing tendency. She might want to “mother” him because his life seems chaotic.

119) Being with a bad boy fulfills a fantasy that most women have at some point in their lives.

120) A woman who has problems with intimacy may be with a bad boy so she won’t have to get close to him.

121) If a guy who doesn’t seem to be that romantic does something romantic, it’s even more special than if a sweet, loving, caring guy does it.

122) Bad boys are impulsive, and that is exciting.

123) A bad boy won’t be needy or dependent on you.

124) Some women like to try and “rescue” bad boys.

125) The relationship is often purely physical, and that can be fun for a woman.

126) It may be appealing NOT to be emotionally attached to someone, for once!

127) Since lots of women seem to like bad boys, a woman may date one as a way to show off.

128) If a women is scared of being monogamous or getting married, dating someone who is “ungettable” is an easy way out.

129) Some women think nice guys are boring because they aren’t impulsive and don’t have any surprises up their sleeves (of course this isn’t true!).

And now here are some great ways to show a woman that, even though you’re a nice guy, you’ve got some exciting “bad boy” qualities, too!

How to be a Good “Bad Boy”

130) Be impulsive. Do things that she isn’t expecting.

131) Don’t suffocate her by always being around or sending 20 emails a day.

132) Enact role-playing games where you talk to her as though you were a “bad boy.”

133) Spice things up in bed—do things you don’t usually do.

134) Rent or borrow a motorcycle and go for a ride.

135) Make a “booty call”—call her up at night and ask if you can come over for some fun. (Make sure she knows you’re not being a jerk, though— tell her what you’re up to if you think she might misinterpret your actions.)

136) Don’t let your girlfriend or wife walk all over you. Stand up for yourself.

137) Be assertive. Demonstrate that you know what you want.

138) Do something daring and out of character—go rock-climbing or scuba diving, for instance.

139) Don’t act like a door-mat. If your girl is always making you do things for her, without doing anything in return, say no.

140) Don’t act needy and dependent. Go out and do your own things with other friends from time to time.

141) Shake things up by wearing something out of the ordinary. If your girl makes fun of your khaki pants, try showing up in leather pants!

142) Ask your girl to please YOU in bed.

143) Ask your girl to do favors for you in return for the favors you do for her.

144) Don’t be afraid to speak your mind without worrying about what she’ll think.

Romance: Making Women’s Fantasies Come True

One of the biggest questions men have is why women are so into romance and what sorts of romantic things they can to do show their significant others that they care. Well, this section is all about the little details that can bring romance into your love life on a daily basis, as well as grand gestures that will make your wife or girlfriend swoon with happiness! Here are 150 romantic gestures, ideas, moments and phrases that women love to see, do and hear!

25 Romantic Phrases:

145) “You make me so happy.”

146) “I want to spend my life with you.”

147) “You are incredibly beautiful.”

148) “I love spending time with you.”

149) “The moment I met you was the best moment of my life.”

150) “I feel so good when I’m around you.”

151) “Making you happy is the most important thing to me.”

152) “When you smile it warms me up.”

153) “You’re such a fun person to be with.”

154) “You light up the room when you walk in.”

155) “I don’t want to be with anyone except you.”

156) “You have changed my life.”

157) “You are my angel.”

158) “I dream about you all the time.”

159) “You are so special to me.”

160) “I care so much about you.”

161) “You make me a better person.”

162) “I need you in my life.”

163) “I just want to keep you safe.”

164) “Every other woman I see pales in comparison to you.”

165) “I want to grow old with you.”

166) “You opened up a new world to me.”

167) “There is no one else but you.”

168) “You are my heart and soul.”

169) “I love you.”

50 Romantic Date Ideas With Her

170) Pack a picnic lunch and eat it in the park.

171) Take a walk down the main street of your town or city.

172) Spend a day at the beach.

173) Drive to a nice hotel for the night.

174) Camp out in the backyard in the summer.

175) Have a movie marathon: rent several movies with a “theme” and make popcorn.

176) Draw a bath and have a soapy indoor date!

177) Have an Italian themed dinner in your home. Order pizza or make spaghetti, play romantic Italian music and serve a nice red wine.

178) Go on a hot-air balloon ride.

179) Take a weekend in the country.

180) Have a Japanese dinner theme night. Buy some paper lanterns, make a seating area on the floor and serve sushi and sake.

181) Plan a romantic dinner, then go shopping. It can actually be fun and quite romantic if you do it together!

182) Get dressed up and go dancing—the old-fashioned kind of dancing!

183) If you live near a body of water, go on a boat ride.

184) Park the car in a darkened lot and act like teenagers again!

185) Go to the top of a tall building and look out and enjoy the view together.

186) Take a short train ride to one of the surrounding towns and explore it together.

187) Go to an open-air food market and taste the delicacies together.

188) If you’re both athletic, plan a bike ride through scenic countryside.

189) Go to a local amusement park and act like kids again—eat cotton candy, play arcade games, and scream on the roller coasters.

190) Go to an art museum and hold hands as you stroll through the galleries.

191) Get in the car and drive for an hour in any direction, without consulting a map. Then, wherever you end up, get out and explore.

192) Go to a baseball game and cheer loudly for your favorite team.

193) Buy tickets to see her favorite musician in concert.

194) See if your local coffee house has any musical events, and stop by after dinner one night.

195) Go to the park and play Frisbee or catch.

196) Rent a limo and take a romantic tour en route to dinner—or just drive around for an hour!

197) If you or she has a dog, go for a long, romantic walk with Fido.

198) When the circus comes to town, take advantage of it. It will be a night to remember, and you’ll both be energized when you get home!

199) Go to a beach—at night!

200) Go to a retro soda-hop joint and enjoy milkshakes and old-fashioned burgers.

201) “Kidnap” your lover as she is leaving work and whisk her off for the night or weekend. Make sure to have some of her clothes and personal things packed so she doesn’t need to go home first.

202) Go to a kiddie establishment (like an arcade, a low-key pizza parlor or Chuck E. Cheese) and enjoy the fun and silly atmosphere.

203) Take a romantic horse and carriage ride, and bring a bottle of champagne to open during the ride.

204) Go miniature golfing. It’s fun and low-key, so you’ll both laugh a lot, and that’s a big

205) If you’re both interested in real estate, or if you’re thinking about buying a house in the near future, go to open houses together.

206) Take your lover to a beautiful flower shop and tell her to pick out whatever she wants.

207) After it rains and the sun comes out, take your lover outside and tell her to help you find a rainbow.

208) Get your camera out and spend the day taking pictures of the two of you kissing in various locations.

209) Go to a pet store and either play with the cuddly creatures or even bring one home!

210) Gather up some old bread and go to the duck pond to feed the birds.

211) Sit outside and watch the sun go down.

212) Visit your lover’s childhood home and town.

213) Go apple-picking and make your own cider together.

214) Sing your favorite romantic songs to each other at a karaoke bar.

215) Volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter together.

216) Ask her to be your date to your best friend’s wedding.

217) Decorate your Christmas tree together, or put up decorations for any other holiday—Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, New Year’s Eve, even Halloween!

218) Read the Sunday newspaper together in your pajamas and over two cups of coffee, and do the crossword puzzle.

219) Build a roaring fire and watch it together.

50 Romantic Gestures You Can Do At Home

220) Make breakfast in bed.

221) Bring home a single rose.

222) Leave a note on your lover’s pillow in the morning before you go to work.

223) Draw a bath and light candles, then invite your lover into the bath.

224) Sneak up, give her a kiss, and whisk her off to the bedroom when she’s doing something mundane, like cooking, washing the dishes, or vacuuming.

225) If your lover is going away on a business trip, write a little note for her to read on the plane.

226) Give her a nice, long massage.

227) Cook dinner as a surprise for your lover.

228) After dinner, take your coffee or wine outside, under the stars.

229) Write a poem for your lover. Even if it’s cheesy, she’ll appreciate the effort and sentiment.

230) Put together a book of photos from trips you have taken.

231) Pick a TV show and make it “your” show. Make a point to watch it together every week.

232) If you have a digitial camera and digital photos, consider making a “couple’s website” that features pictures of the two of you for all the world to see!

233) Make chocolate covered strawberries together in the afternoon, let them chill in the fridge and then eat them together later!

234) Set up a little karaoke studio in your own home—play some favorite tunes and sing along!

235) Write “I love you” on a fogged up bathroom mirror; she’ll see it next time she gets out of the shower.

236) What’s your lover’s favorite board game? After you find out, buy it or get it out of the closet and make a night of it.

237) Get out your camera and have fun taking playing photographer. Take fun and sexy pictures of each other. Use a digital camera if you have one so you can see the results immediately.

238) After dinner, make her go and relax somewhere else while you clean up in the kitchen. Then deliver a handwritten invitation asking her to come down to the living room for coffee and dessert.

239) Learn how to say “I love you” in another language.

240) Even if you live with your lover, send her Valentine’s Day card or birthday cards through the postal system. It will be a nice surprise when she goes to get the mail.

241) Spend a whole morning snuggling under the covers. Don’t get up to answer the phone or watch TV!

242) Get a little silly! Thumb-wrestle or tickle her.

243) Have a dinner party with some close friends, and when they leave you’ll be especially glad to be alone with her.

244) Bake cookies or a cake together.

245) Put on some romantic music and slow-dance.

246) Launder the sheets and pillows, make the bed, and then mess it up!

247) Read through some trashy magazines and laugh over them together.

248) Make a picnic on the living room floor. Spread out a blanket, lay out plates and food, open a bottle of wine, and enjoy!

249) Ask her to pick out a couple of her favorite CDs. Then listen to them together.

250) Get out a book of poetry and read your favorites aloud.

251) Get dressed up in fancy attire for a candlelight dinner in your own kitchen.

252) Take out the garbage—before she asks you to! Trust me, it’s romantic!

253) Watch the nightly news together.

254) Rake the leaves, and then take turns jumping in the piles like kids.

255) Get out your camcorder and make fun home video.

256) Call your girlfriend or wife’s parents or grandparents on the phone just to say hello and tell them how much she means to you.

257) Roast marshmallows in your fireplace.

258) Make ice cream sundaes—and don’t forget to have lots of whipped cream on hand for later!

260) Mail her a romantic card for no special reason—just because.

261) If she’s in her own apartment, or even just in another part of the house, call her just to tell her that you miss her and are thinking about her.

262) Make a fun event out of doing the laundry or washes the dishes together. Turn the radio on really loud, and dance around and sing while you clean.

263) If it’s snowing, make a snowman, complete with a carrot nose and a scarf, or make snow angels. Afterwards, get out of those wet clothes and make her a cup of hot chocolate with marshmallows.

264) Play card games together.

265) Go for a walk together at night, in the dark.

266) Do a jigsaw puzzle together and promise each other you won’t quit until the whole thing’s done.

267) Give her a foot rub.

268) Have a pillow fight.

269) Make it a point to go to sleep early one night—turn off the TV, unplug the phone, and turn off your email. Just focus on each other and hold her while you drift off.