221) “It’s not because women are too controlling, manipulative or stubborn when they desire to plan something in advance. Many times than not, women love making plans and planning ahead because she cares to make certain events happen, and to make them an exciting and meaningful ones to make their loved ones happy.”
222) “It frustrates me when my man doesn’t seem to take an interest in what I’m planning for our dates together. It pains me when he breaks his promise and chooses to stay home instead of going out with me. Guys, wake up, and realize that girls take pride in planning ahead, and it’s a joy for her if you can spare some time to participate in the discussion with her to make whatever she desires a reality.”
223) “It’s definitely not that I’m trying to control my man’s time, but I love the feelings of having something good to look forward to.”
224) “Most guys usually don’t have the urge to ask for help or advice or even seek ways to improve on things, so one day there’s this guy coming along and we have a very nice conversation together. He shows an interest in me. He asks me for my opinions and feedback, and I’m there thinking, ‘wow, this guy is so different from the rest of the guys who are only thinking for themselves!’. He’s the only guy who gets my attention.”
225) “My husband often views my offer to help as being very intrusive and controlling, and many times he hurt my feelings without even realizing it. So, guys, if you want to attract a girl, change your perception and change your ways of looking at things. Many times it’s not that we are controlling or critical, it’s just that we want to be there for you, to be useful, and to help. We are concerned, and we’ll like to know how we can help, that’s all. If you are that rare guy who understands why girls are the ways they are, and can readily accept her offers of help or is all ears to her opinions and feedback, you’ll be able to get her interested in you with effortless effort!”
226) “Women are born to be nurturing and creative beings, which is why they are very sensitive to the feelings of other people. Whatever they do, they do not intend to disapprove of you or your behaviors, they just need to know that you appreciate their being there for you. Try the following. It could help you win over the woman of your dreams, helps you improve on your relationship with a woman, or even save a failing relationship.
- Realize that women love to plan, create, and improve on things.
- Allow her the space and freedom to contribute her opinions and feedback. Ask “So, what do you think?”, “Any ideas I can make it better?”, “Do you think this is nice?”, “What can we do to solve this problem?”
- She’ll be motivated to elaborate more and put on her thinking caps. Do not worry whether she has the time to share your burden or whether you’ll offend her if you don’t accept her suggestions or opinions. Remember that she’ll always find it a JOY to contribute her part! All she needs to know is that you appreciate her being around to help and contribute.
- If you know this secret of women, you’ll be tapping into her nurturing potential, and if you can react and response in an appropriate way that is comfortable to both of you, you’ll make her fall in love with you!
227) “I’ve been hurt and upset by many, many past relationships. And they all display the same patterns. After I’ve put in all the effort, time, and energy into a plan or project or purpose for myself and for my mate, he always reacts with the same annoyance, impatience, and even irritation. Well, it’s fine if he’s not happy with all the arrangements and plans I have made, but he can just let me know, discuss with me, and I can make all the necessary adjustments and changes so that he’ll be happy. There’s really no need to kick up a big fuss over it, or even show your annoyance and expecting me to know what’s wrong. So, nowadays, whenever my female friend come along and ask me of my opinions of a guy she is interested in, I’ll ask her to check with him if he holds this type of confusing attitude. If he is a man who cannot appreciates why a girl is the way she is, why a girl does things the ways she does, and if he never bothers to understand girls, then, she might as well dump him.”
228) “I think if you really see me as controlling, then I’ll be controlling. If you see me as being commanding and bossy, then I’ll be commanding and bossy. If you see me as being pushy, then I’ll be pushy. There’s really nothing I can do about it. All of these are dependent upon your mind, your interpretation. They do not come from outside; from others. They are created by you, by your own mind. And, it leads to the same result : a ruined relationship.”
229) “What I would like my man to know is that when I plan or suggest something for our relationship, I’m not trying to control him or ordering him to do things my ways (which he often interprets as such!), all I’m trying to is to come out with better ways of doing things, which is why I offer my suggestions and solutions. If he doesn’t like them, it’s fine with me, he can just tell me, and discuss with me, and I’ll respect his decision. But he shouldn’t accuse me of being controlling or commanding when I’m not! It’s NOT even in my consciousness to tell him what to do or demanding him to listen to me. If this goes on, I might as well shut up and be the dumb person in the house. Does he like this to happen?”
230) “To choose a guy over another one, I observe how he reacts and interacts with other people, especially how he treats his parents, his family, the people around me, my pet for example; in this way I get to know his character. If he treats his parents like crap, he’s probably going to treat me in the same way sooner or later, even though he’s very nice to me at this moment.”
231) “What if she rejects you? You’ll have no problem with it if you have trained yourself well to be able to think on a newer and higher level, to change your values and viewpoints to every undesirable event that occur in your life. If she rejects you and it hurts, I assure you it is not the bare fact of that rejection that hurts. The disappointment comes when your mind which adds something to that fact. It itself has not power whatsoever to hurt you in any way; it’s your mental addition that does the hurting. What does your mind add to it? It could be that you might think she looks down on you. It could be that you might think yourself as unattractive and lousy. Or you might think that here is just another instance how unlucky and unwanted you are. So, try this method: see the bare fact, don’t add to it. When your insight has grown, you’ll banish all your shyness and dissolve every disappointments or rejections by not mentally adding to your daily events. One day you’ll come to realize, there are, in fact, no disappointments in life, only events.
232) “Woman loves the attention from the one they love. Most men nowadays are impatient to give them the attention their women are yearning for. You need not have to crack your brains how to give your woman the attention she wants. Just listening to her and her stories is one of the best approaches to grow her love for you. If you are wooing this woman, encourage her to tell you of her hopes and dreams. There is no need to decide whether she is right or wrong in whatever she has to tell you. Just listen. If you are the only man whom can really listen to her and understand her, she’ll want you to be her man!”
233) “What attracts him to me? It’s not easy to make the right choice. All girls dream of getting the guy that they desire. I have to make my choice amongst a few of them! All of them are equally good, handsome looking, having a good career, possessing good habits. It was really hard to choose. Then one day, he (now my husband) popped up at my house with a big surprise for me and my beloved pet dog! He had planned a birthday bash for Milo that night! He is the only one I know who has ever done this for Milo; none of my close friends or family members even bothers about it. I choose him eventually. It’s sweet of him to be so thoughtful and kind. If he’s thoughtful and kind towards my dog, I know he will do the same towards me!” So guys, be nice to her family, friends, neighbors, and even her pets! It makes a big difference in how your girl thinks of you.
234) “Never keep her waiting for you for whatever reasons. Plan in advance so you’ll not be late. Being early tells her that the occasion is important to you, and that you take her seriously. It will tell your woman that her appointment is the number one thing in your mind no matter how busy or occupied you are.”
235) “Some of the best attraction techniques are made on the spur of the moment. So learn to be spontaneous, be generous in giving sincere hugs or physical touches at the right moment. This is what you do, do things which tells her that she is wanted, but do not advance any further than what is necessary. Show her respects, keep an appropriate distance – not too close, and yet not too far away; while at the same time give her cues that she is desired. Many girls love it, and most girls are hooked when they met their right guy who can do this with tact!”
236) “If you are fearful of her rejection during your dates with her, or scared of being hurt, just be mindful that women are just as fearful and nervous as you are! After all, women are not angels. If at times your woman seems to be cold, unfeeling, or distancing herself from you, be aware that at times they do certain puzzling things (which most men do not really understand, such as giving cold shoulders, etc.) to protect themselves from being hurt, or even from being rejected by you!
237) “I like to do character reading from the day I know him. It’s not really an intentional act, but I will just make a mental note of his attitudes, how he treats other people, how he behaves when certain things happen. I’ll look into the little things he does and reading bigger things into them, such as if someone accidentally pours a cup of coffee on him I’ll observe how he will react to that little accident. If he’s forgiving towards that person, I’ll know that he’ll make a forgiving husband. If he’s walking on a narrow lane behind a slow moving old lady, I’ll observe if he’s patient enough to follow behind the old woman, or he’ll push her aside and rush in front of her instead. We are going to live under the same roof for the rest of our lives you see. Being having to see each other every day for the rest of our life, I want to know if one day I make a little mistake would he be forgiving, understanding and patient towards me? Or he would be harsh on me?”
238) “If it gets too cold in the movie theatre, he’ll take off his jacket and give it to me. Even if I’m already wearing one, he’ll ask me to cover my legs with it. If I’m hungry, he’ll sneak in some food for me into the movie theatre. I’m thinking‘That’s very thoughtful of him!’ It’s his thoughtfulness which makes me fall in love with him!”
239) “What girls really want is romance! If you want this girl, give her what she wants. Some guys would freak out whenever they hear this word ‘romance’. You really need not have to crack your brains really hard or spend too much energy, time or money to know what you are doing is right. Many times, being romantic often means giving her the attention she wants. She just needs to feel that she is the number one woman, the sweetest, sexiest, prettiest, most wonderful woman in your heart. If you can find ways to continuously reinforce her beliefs, not only will you be able to attract her, but you’ll be able to keep her by your side for as long as you want! Does it cost a lot to be romantic? Not really:
1) Ask her how her day is
2) Tuck a friendly or love note using different methods and in different ways, telling her she is on your mind.
3) If she has offered her help in any of your projects, send her a note saying “You are the best!”
4) If she has made you some home made chicken soup, find ways to let her know “You are a wonderful person!”
240) “I have a friend whose boyfriend of 3 years was trying very hard to get her on a date with him, but didn’t really know whether she had any feelings for him or how to ask her out. One day, she received a very unique and pretty photo sticker from him in the letterbox. He had squeezed into a photo booth and captured a silly photo of himself with a dummy doll made out of a piece of cardboard besides him. On the top of the sticker near to the doll’s head he had had drawn an arrow and scribbled in his own handwriting: “Wish you were here with me! Free to come out for dinner tomorrow?” She couldn’t help laughing, but she was hooked, and accepted the date. Today, she still kept that photo sticker. It was her treasured possession. They had been friends for a year and had gotten to know each other in the same church. She never really noticed him much, until that special day when she received the photo sticker.”