Category: Things Girls Want Guys To Know

Things Girls Want Guys To Know – In a Nutshell, all her secret fantasies, hidden fears, what’s she thinking, why is she feeling this way, the dreams she has of the man she will love, all her innermost desires, likes and dislikes which she has been wanting to tell you so badly but doesn’t really know how to say it or when to say it, it’s all right here – unedited and uncensored!

1) “I want you to flirt with me and only me! Says things or do something which tells me I am the only one you want in your heart!”

2) “If you spotted me wanting something I would love to have in the shop, I would love you to treat me to that little gift even if I didn’t ask.”

3) “I get very pissed and turned off when my man doesn’t seem to want to talk! I talk so as to feel close to my mate, and I like to talk about my feelings and emotions. If he doesn’t know how to say the right thing it’s ok. I just wish he would just simply listen, because if he does that I would feel he’s taking me more seriously.”

4) “I am more emotional about everything, thus I want to discuss and talk about my feelings and emotions. It may not solve the troubles and problems I feel I’m facing, but, at least I can vent it off, and let go of the steam. I’m attracted to those who can listen to me.”

5) “I like to hear my man say ‘I miss you’. I like to know he’s thinking of me all the time, so a simple message, or a simple note like that would turn me on.”

6) “I don’t like him to be so mysterious and quiet when he looks troubled. I cannot read his mind. It would be better if he can say something, I can share his burden.”

7) “I love you to remember all of our special days – first date, first kiss, wedding, etc. etc. Tell me that you remember it all.”

8) “I love him to ask me what will make me happy now! It shows he cares, he’s serious about me, and I’m wanted! I find him so cool and attractive when he’s willing to do anything and everything that will make me happy now!”

9) “I feel close to him when he goes behind me, wraps his arms round me and whispers into my ears, and then the kisses come. It sends a tingling up my spines and I simply love that feeling!”

10) “My love for him grows when he does things that are so unexpected! Such as taking over the little chores when I’m feeling unwell, sending my research books back to the library when I forgot about it all, and buying home my favorite sweet dessert when I didn’t ask for it!”

11) “It’s the little things that counts! I do not want him to plan any dates that are too extravagant or give me gifts that are too expensive. I’m not really impressed with all these. But I’m attracted to him when he can just put down his papers or work just to be with me, be there for me or even listen to me. I want his heart, not his person.”

12) “I want to be your special some one. Tell me and convince me that I am!”

13) “I want to feel I’m desired, and be wooed over and over again, no matter where we are in this relationship. I love attention all the time, even if you don’t feel like giving attention to me, do something, however small the gestures are, to make me feel close to you.”

14) “When you worry about me and anything regarding my life, I know you have me in your heart.”

15) “What girls really like, even after marriage, is romance!”

16) “Guys seem to resist talking about their feelings about the relationship. But what I simply need to know is if you will only say ‘You are the only one in my heart!’ That’s it. He doesn’t even have to think really hard what to say if he doesn’t know or if he doesn’t want to, this is all I need to hear.”

17) “I think we girls emphasize a lot on timeline. I need commitment from you, and I need to know that I’m right to have chosen you, I don’t want to waste time with you if this relationship is not going to work out. So, please tell me first if you are not serious into a long term commitment. Don’t waste my time and don’t waste mine. Don’t keep me waiting for your answer, and don’t make me keep guessing whether you are real”

18) “Tell me and do things which tell me I’m your Number One! – The loveliest, sexiest, most capable, most attractive – I just need to know, don’t ask me why. It’s what you do everyday and what you say every moment that counts, it need not be exaggerated, even if I can get a hint that I’m on your most wanted list I’ll feel satisfied!”

19) “My ideal man would be caring, honest, committed, and would love me till the day I die.”

20) “I lose interest instantly when I start hearing from you how much money you have earned, how much was spent on this and that, and so on. I’m uninterested in your money, and I definitely won’t fall for some one who appears to be so calculative! A man who is gentle with animals and children is a big turn-on. When he’s willing to take time to pay attention to them, I’ll be there with him!”

21) “If I spotted my own photo in my man’s wallet, and he even made it into a photo card with some cute designs round it, I would be secretly pleased and flattered that I’ve a special place in his heart, even if I may never let him know!”

22) “Just because a guy captures my heart, he shouldn’t get so comfortable with this relationship that he gives up dating and romancing me anymore! I would feel like I’ve become a used book on his dusty bookshelf!”

23) “Today on my birthday I expected another hand-made card from him. But, to my surprise he created a powerpoint with heart-warming music in the background! It doesn’t cost a penny to do this, but it definitely is time consuming to make all these! Wow, I just felt that I’m falling in love with him all over again.”

24) “I love to get surprises from him! Or anything that he does out of the ordinary…”

25) “I like the guy who will pamper me and only me forever!”

26) “I think he’s romantic when he gives me his precious time, time he would not even give to his parents!”

27) “I’m attracted to him when he presented me with his artist’s sketch of me using pencil. I’m thinking ‘well, no other men would waste time on this!’ It’s now my treasured possession. He really put his whole heart into doing it.”

28) “I love hugs or simply a light touch, whether it’s to show his encouragement, his affection, his support, or even his passion for me.”

29) “I cannot tolerate a guy who talks too much and does not know when and how to stop, even when hints are given! If he’s more concerned with how he’s doing than how I’m doing, it’s a big, big turnoff!”

30) “I’m turned off when a not-so-confident guy try to woo me. It will all show up in his eyes, his manners, his speech, his attitude, his habits and his behaviors. I prefer to be with a more cheery and confident guy, who knows what he wants and what he’s doing. Such a guy has more magnetism than those who don’t!”

31) “I’m attracted to the guy who’s more daring, more adventurous – some one who’s not afraid to try new things and challenges. A gentleman would be good, but if he watches his manners and treats me too nicely and too extremely I’m not attracted to him. Basically I’m a very quiet girl, and I think life would be very boring and monotonous if my mate is also some one who is quiet and unadventurous. There’s just something missing right here. So, that guy who can simply stir my emotions and feelings, and challenges me to new ways of thinking and doing things is likely the one who can win me over.”

32) “I like my mate to say exactly what he wants and mean it up front. If you are not pleased nor if you are angry about something, don’t vent and expect me to know what is wrong. I can’t do mind reading too!”

33) “I like my mate to call me his bribe even if we are married! I can just get this feeling that he’s loving me every day!”

34) “He begins to expect me to give in to his demands and do whatever he wants me to do after our marriage. I don’t like the idea that he’s now treating me like his “wife”, I’m not proud of it anymore. It would be so nice if he can still treat me like his girlfriend! You know, I simply like the feeling that he doesn’t really know everything about me and he’s constantly wooing me.”

35) “If I seem quiet, not in my usual self, and with a little worry look on my face, I would like you to come up and just ask me what is it all about and what you can do, without even needing me to ask you to do it.”

36) “I’ll like my mate to praise me for something good I have done, whether it’s the new dish I’m making, or whether it’s a bright idea I’ve some out with.”

37) “If you mean no, says no. Don’t beat about the bush, or try to please me by saying things which you do not really mean. I can detect that in your voice, your eyes, and your body language. I’m not impressed with that.”

38) “I love him to show me appreciation for what I have done for him. Even better, compliment me whenever he can.”

39) “Don’t criticize me if I have done something wrong. Try to make me see your point, or the benefits of doing things using other ways instead of mine. Don’t make me do something just because you feel it’s the right way and the only way. Many times I will not believe it’s the only way.”

40) “I don’t really understand him. He just keeps doing things which piss me. But still, I want to be with him more than with other guys. I guessed it’s all because of the challenges, the unpredictable attitude and behavior, and the desire to

41) “I like you to pamper me without my realizing that I’m too demanding.”

42) “I’m most turned off when you cannot decide what to do and where to go for our date, or even appear indecisive! Come on, you are a man! I want to know I can depend on you, that you can make the right and best decisions for all of us here. But, you are the sweetest if you make your decisions only after finding out what my needs are, what I like, and what turns me on. Yah I know you are not a mind reader or a psychic, at least, you try and you make an effort!”

43) “When both us communicate, I want you to be involved as well. I don’t want you to just consent with what I say just to please me. Please, if you do it I’ll feel there’s something very wrong with me and I don’t like feeling that way! Cut all those pretenses. If you are not happy, say so. If you are happy, let me know. I prefer you to be honest, truthful and straightforward, with tact!”

44) “I am not a man, and I will never be! I will forever be different from you, and think in a different way from you, and you will never be a woman too! If you want me, accept me for who I am. If you desire to be with me, accept me for who I am! It is your acceptance of me for who I am that I can and will do my very best to make this relationship work. But if you cannot accept me for who I am, and expect me to change (to what you want me to be), then sooner or later I will break down, and our relationship will too break down!”

45) “Let me have a life of my own, and trust me! If I do not want to be with you I will go away. So for as long as I am with you, trust me that I like you, that I too want to be with you! Yes, I will be very playful outside at times, life is a long journey with many experiences to be experienced and learnt. When I have learnt all I can, when I have experienced enough, I will eventually come home.”

46) “I always believe in this saying ‘Absence makes the heart grows fonder.’ I will miss you if you do not cling to me like a sticky glue!”

47) “I will never grow tired of hearing my man says ‘I love you!’ He’s best when he can come out with many different, fun, and creative ways of telling me that he loves me!”

48) “I like the way my man feed me with his stick of fish balls; I’ll have one piece, and he’ll finish the other piece. There’s a message here. It tells me something, that he’s interested in me!”

49) “I like him to be a real man, one who is able to speak up for me when I’m being bullied, protect me from dangers, save me from embarrassing situation, and provide me shelters when I need it.”

50) “I’m attracted to the man who can also be a good father. Such a man needs to be considerate, caring, and responsible.”

51) “I’m attracted to my man because of the way he treats his pet puppy. He loves him, takes good care of him, walks him every day and gives him good food. Doesn’t it say something about his character? He’s such a loving and caring person. Well, such a man is hard to find!”

52) “I’m attracted to the man who can be sensitive to my needs. I’m a rather sensitive and possessive person, so if he wants me he has to know that I need him to call me every evening, even if it’s just to say hi. Don’t ask me why, but if he wants me and loves me, he has to know my needs and wants. It just gives me a peace of mind if he can just call, or even text a message. It’s not time consuming or difficult isn’t it? If he has the heart he will do it.”

53) “I would fall in love with the man who is willing to share life together with me!”

54) “I love excitement, entertainment, and fun! So, share with me all the challenges, excitement, gossips and changes that are occurring in your workplace or your life. You need not have to tell me everything if you do not want to. But I like to feel I’m involved, that you like me listening to you, that you tell me because you value my opinions and feedback, and that you value my presence!

55) “Make me feel important. It’s actually easy to accomplish this if you want to attract me. Ask me about my interests, my likes and dislikes. Ask me to participate in your project. Ask me to give a little helping hand and show that you trust me and have confidence in me. Pamper me at times. All these would make me feel I’m the most important person in your life.”

56) “Who will I be attracted to if I’m in a room of many men? Well, it all depends. If all men are fighting to talk loudly and noisily at the same time, I think I’ll be attracted to the one man who sits quietly at a corner and deep in thought. Why? Because he stands out. That’s why. Unknowingly, he has ignited in me a curiosity about him, a need to kill my curiosity, a desire to know more about him. I’ll have my attention on him instead.”

57) “I’m attracted to my man because he didn’t try so hard to woo me!”

58) “I think I will fall for you if you can just let me talk myself into liking you. You cannot make another person like you, that’s one of the basic truth in life. But basically, I’m attracted to the man who can still be himself, like an indestructible mountain, whether he knows I like him or not. For this person, there’s something about him which other guys lack, a mystique, like an indestructible diamond.”

59) “I’m turned off instantly by the guy who loses all his confidence, becomes like a cry baby, and even thinks that the world has come to the end, when I tell him I do not like him. Come on, you are a guy, please. Surely you would not have given up so easily!”

60) “I think the guy who woos me has to be very, very, very thick skinned if he wants to win me over. Hey, I do not wish to appear I’m easily attainable too! That would have given him an easy ride isn’t it?”

61) “My mum used to tell me that if there’s a guy interested in me I have to be aware that I do not give in to him too easily. Too bad, guys, but you really have to make a sincere effort and preserve to show me that you are the right man for me. I always believe if any thing is too easily available and attainable, it’ll lose its value instantly too! So, do not blame me if at times I sounded harsh, cold, and unfeeling. As a girl, I want to make sure I take the right step in choosing you.”

62) “My man knows how I would like him to behave and he gives it to me! That attracts me to him. I never know I’m so sensitive to touches and hugs until I meet him. He knows I have a certain liking for him, and one day he just takes his chances and gives me kisses from behind my back on my necks and ears. That literally blows me away! There’s another guy who’s interested in me, but he’s very reserved and too quiet, too gentlemanly. Indeed, I must say he’ll make a good husband, but he doesn’t turn me on, and there’s really no chemistry. So to this day, that first guy is still the one I want because he’s the only one who knows what I want!”

63) “If I say I do not need help, what I really want is I need some help! The guy who most attracts me is the guy who can help me solve my problems even without my asking for it, and he is so cool he asks and expects nothing in return. For such a guy, I would fall in love with him!”

64) “I hated it when my man just came home, dumped his laptop bag on the sofa, and went into the room without even popping into the kitchen and asked me how my day was, or gave a hug. Even if he’s dead tired he can just come in and say hi, at least, he should care enough to let me know his presence!”

65) “Many times, I just want my man to listen to me and what I have to say. He needs not have to understand what’s going on or providing any help if he’s incapable of doing so. In many cases, I only love his being present, that’s all. Sometimes he can get so caught up in trying to come out with a solution to my troubles and problems that he irritates me without knowing and realizing it! He’ll end up siding with the colleague whom I’m not on good terms with, making me feel as if I’m in the wrong or making the wrong judgment. Hey, I want you to make me feel I’m right even if in reality it’s not! So, without knowing the truth in reality, I would prefer you to just shut up and listen.”

66) “I like you to make me feel I’m making the right decisions, the right judgment, having the right sentiments and feelings. In short, don’t make me look and feel bad. Side with me, even if you feel like I’m in the wrong!”

67) “Sometimes I want you to help, sometimes I do not really want you to help, as when you do you often end up saying the wrongs things, can’t get what I really mean, or misinterpreted . If you are not sure, just appear interested, listen and relax. This is all I ask of you”

68) “The guy who can attract me be some one who is too quiet and reserved. Being quiet and nice will not make me fall for him, except that I will draw the conclusion that he will be a nice guy, a nice friend, that’s all. It’s what he does that tells me more of his character, and is more convincing. For example if he keeps a pet and lovingly hugs his pet, I know he’s a caring and loving person. If he brings me out sailing and shows me he loves the sun, water and sea, I know he’s an outgoing person who is always cheery, and fun to be with! If he does volunteer work and invites me to assist him in coaching some intellectually disabled kids in swimming, I know he’s a compassionate man with a good heart!”

69) “I will be attracted to the guy who does things differently!”

70) “My man keeps putting romance off to the weekends. Every day for five days of the week he just comes home, eat, and sleep, and shoot off for work early in the morning the next day. Why can’t he be the way he is when he’s dating me? I would love him to be romantic seven days a week! Is it a difficult thing to do? What I want is only a few minutes of his attention!”

71) “I love your cuddling and snuggling! I like the feelings of closeness and togetherness, but It’s not only about the feelings, it’s because you show that you want it too and that you take time off your busy schedule for it. That’s important to me!”

72) “I like him to talk to me at breakfast, not at me!”

73) “I lost confidence in him when he keeps forgetting our anniversaries and even my birthday!”

74) “I do not need expensive gifts from you to make me happy. If you can just text me or write me the following passionate words I’ll be on clouds nine! ‘You are my soulmate!’, ‘You are the best.’, ‘Grow old with me.’”

75) “I like the way he is so eager to see me, to hear from me, to touch me, to say sweet words to me, during the time when he’s dating me. If only he will continue to win my love and affection all over again and again even after we are married! You know, I’ll never be tired of it!”

76) “For my man to keep me by his side, he needs to show me that he needs me!”

77) “After a fight with my man, we stay away from each other to avoid further fights and arguments. I may look cold, unfeeling, and arrogant, but secretly I still care about him, I still miss him a lot, even if I do not show it on my face or even say it out loud. I’m disappointed with myself too for failing to resolve any misunderstandings we may have. I do feel bad about the fighting too.”

78) “I love the little gestures my husband give to show his consideration and care for him, such as giving up his seat for him on the train, walking me home before leaving for somewhere else). You know, such a man is so rare nowadays. Many men just take women for granted after they won her over.”

79) “How to say it? I’m attracted to the guy who is strong willed, yet gentle and considerate, at the same time. Such guys are hard to come by!”

80) “When a guy treats me like a lady, I cannot help but be attracted to him. It turns me off when a guy is hesitant about opening the door for me or walking me to the door. He’s the best when he makes an effort, and expects nothing in return. How should I put it? This guy is not just trying to do something for me, rather, he’s trying to be someone to me. He’s different from other guys, and I can sense his inner strength. He’s mature and he’s unafraid.”

81) “All that I have found up to now is someone who did something for me just to please me, in expectation of getting something in return, that I would return their call, that I should show that I’m happy to be with them or see them. But this guy (now her husband) is different! I turned him down a year ago. But he preserves, and now I know that he’s the only one who truly loves me as he doesn’t want anything from me!”

82) “I’ll turn him away if he’s rushing things and moving too fast. I like to go slowly, checking him out, knowing more about him and his character before we go steady. If he starts calling every day after our first date, he’ll make me think that he’s desperate, or he has got nothing better to do! And I definitely wouldn’t want to be with a desperate man.”

83) “If any guy wants to capture my heart he has to uncover me as I really am, not as they merely believe or hope that I am.”

84) “I rejected him because he tries too hard to please. The whole thing is just so deliberate! “

85) “He doesn’t try to make an impression. He doesn’t want anything from me. And thus I don’t feel to pressure to response or act in any deliberate way. It’s comfortable being with him. He appears close to me, yet has an air of detachment. He’s just so cool. I can’t help but fall for such a guy!”

86) “He has such an interesting life, is heavily involved in sports, and has a strong belief in his passion. I’m attracted to him because I know that he’s complete and he’s not demanding. He lives life to the fullness, and is free from the need to control me and my life, yet at the same time he wants to be close to me and takes time to share with me all the interesting things about him and his life.”

87) “I’m not too crazy about skinny, tall, and gentlemanly guy. I don’t go after guys with bulky muscles and big biceps too. But I’ll fall for the guy who possesses physical strength, good determination and gentleness, all at the same time.”

88) “It’s important that my man has good physical strength. No it doesn’t that he has to have well defined and big muscles, but that he has to have all the good virtues such as perseverance, strong willed and brave. I’ll feel safe with such a guy as I know that he’ll protect me from dangers!”

89) “The guy I want mustn’t behave like a woman just to please me or attract me!”

90) “What I like about my man is his I-don’t-care attitude! He seems to be able to get away from every thing. The ironical part is, the more he doesn’t care, the more I’m drawn to him!”

91) “There’s an air of detachment in him. He can keep his life and have a relationship! I wish I have half of his attitude, I cannot help but put relationship first! I hope, if he ever gets a chance to read this, that he’ll understand why I crave for his attention and affection at those seemingly untimely hours.”

92) “My man doesn’t seem to care how other people would feel. But I care. And I cannot stop caring and being aware of how other people feel.”

93) “Adventure racing is his passion. It’s just in his blood from his childhood. I fell in love with him for what adventure racing has molded him and for the character he is. But it’s his extreme involvement in that activity that is challenging our relationship right now. He can just leave me and our children unsupported emotionally and financially and go for his races. He doesn’t seem to worry, and he keeps it inside of him. One thing is for sure, I’m still attracted to him!”

94) “He’s the only one who will respect and love the people I love – my friends, my family, my working colleagues, and even my pet!”

95) “I fall for him because of his character, and for who he is. He has such a positive outlook in life, does what he feels is right without hesitation, and can just dump things when he feels like it, with no cares, no worries, no further explanations.”

96) “I find you so sweet when you give me that hand-made card decorated with the flowers we planted in our garden! And, you gave it to me on the day when it was no special occasion.”

97) “I fell in love with him when every time he sees me he says ‘Every time I see you, I fall in love with you over and over again!’”

98) “He makes me feel so special when he makes it a point to spend time alone with me, while our kids are with our parents.”

99) “The most special gift I receive is what he creates himself – a CD full of my favorite songs! You know, I have the know-how to create it myself, but he moves me because of the time and effort he puts into it.”

100) “I love it when you says you are receiving your bonus this week and you are going to give both of us a treat!”

101) “Girly things or gifts are not out of date! I may show that I do not fancy jewelries and pendant nowadays. But my heart is moved when he gives me a beautiful heart pendant.”

102) “I would love to be with the guy who can keep his promise. My ex- boyfriends are those types who keep their promises when they are wooing me, and after we have gone steady they forget all about it. They start to treat me like nothing, and they even thought I wouldn’t mind if they can just break a promise or two. Please, if you break a promise once that’s it. It tells something about you, that you are not really serious.”

103) “If he knows I’m sick and even takes leave from his work just to accompany me to the clinic, I know I can’t help but fall for this man.”

104) “Even if we are married, I would like my man to ask me (without my asking or reminding him) to go for a stroll hand-in-hand, whether it’s on the beach or in the garden (and just us alone!). It’s not boring for me. Girls like their guys to just be around.”

105) “I’ll love my guy to hide love notes for me to discover – in my books, laptop, inside the fridge, under my pillow, in my hands before I wake up!”

106) “If you are in debt or facing some problems, I would like you to know I’ll stick with you all the way, and if there’s anything I can do to help please let me know. You may be so engrossed in solving your own problems that many times I’ll feel neglected, left out, unworthy, or even useless. Don’t forget we girls tend to feel more, are emotional and sentimental. I’ll be even more moody, lethargic, and miserable if you are unhappy. So, pushing me away is not for my own good if that’s what you are thinking, nor are you saving me from any troubles or problems. I want to be involved, and I want to share the burden with you! Make me feel capable of doing it. Make me feel I’m not totally useless!”

107) “There are many things I can do to be involved. I’m not being bossy. But let me do something for you, even if you feel you can handle it. I like to feel I’m being appreciated. I like to know that you like me to be around for you.”

108) “Ask for my opinions. Ask for my help. Two brains are better than one. Don’t keep to yourself, and don’t vent your anger and frustrations. I cannot read what is going on in your mind. Even if I can’t do anything to help (if it’s beyond my knowledge or means), I like to know that you appreciate my presence, my being there for you. If not, you’ll make me feel I’m not needed or wanted. As a girl I don’t like to feel this way!”

109) “I’m turned off by the guy who keeps saying he cannot make it in his job, that he’s not good in anything, that he’s not earning enough. Please, that doesn’t make you very modest. On the contrary it does show you haven’t learn to love yourself, and one who doesn’t know how to love oneself cannot love others too! Before I left him, I told him: ‘Learn to love yourself first, before trying to find a mate.’”

110) “Don’t tell me that you want to be with me while at the same time you join a dating service. That’s not a sensible thing to do. I know you may like to get to know more friends and pals, but, it does tell other girls you are available, and, as a girl myself, even though I do not mind you mixing around with other people, I like to feel and know that I’m the most important person in your heart!”

111) “I like to be with the guy who will respect a woman, and who thinks we women have equal rights. I find such a guy very attractive, one who believes in women and what women can do, or even speak up for women!”

112) “I like the fact that guys aren’t petty and even if they get mad with their male friends, they’ll make up the next day and still remain buddies and best friends. But, guys, we are not your buddies, we’ll stay mad with you forever if you’ll want to make up without even apologizing. I think girls are more petty, and I definitely am. If I feel that I’m right I want my love interest to acknowledge it, and even if I’m wrong I don’t like my mate to make it so obvious that I’m wrong. As I have just said, we are not guys and we cannot think and behave like guys do. So, to please us and to pacify us you cannot behave as if nothing has gone wrong and that everything that has happened can be forgotten easily. What you can best do, I think, is acknowledge that something has gone wrong, don’t pretend that it can be easily forgotten for we’ll get very hurt. Acknowledge girls’ feelings and ability of being able to stay mad for as long as they want, and try to pacify them by giving them what they want. It makes things worse when a guy just stays away without even saying anything, as it’ll show that he does not care. It’s better if you can just say: ‘Look, honey, I know you are mad with me, and you are still mad at this moment. I’ll stay away from you for the next few days until you feel better.”

113) “I like the guy with an attitude, who looks and behaves very cool and coldly, but whose heart is very warm, generous, and gracious! If such a guy comes along I’ll definitely fall for him!”

114) “My guy is quite plump! Why do I fall for him? I guess he’s a lot more honest, trustworthy, and caring than those handsome ones. Do you think I’ll feel secure with those handsome guys? I wouldn’t! Such guys usually have a long waiting list of girls waiting for them and I definitely wouldn’t want to be in the queue. Security and commitment is very important to me. If you know you are not going to be committed or serious about this relationship, stay away from me. I don’t want to get dumped by you one day.”

115) “We girls tend to think a lot, a lot, unlike guys. We can’t help it. We often think about how other people are looking at us, whether they like us doing things in certain ways, whether they prefer us dressing in that way, and so on and so forth. So, it would seem like we tend to question and nag a lot. So, please be understanding and be patient with me if you want to be with me. Many times, I would need a lot of confirmation and answers from you just to convince me. You’ll have to bear with me, and accept me for the way I am if you want me to be your mate!”

116) “As the guy I love has to constantly work overseas, I need him to give me a call every evening. It’s not that I’m possessive, and I don’t want to admit I am! But I need to feel secure, that he’s still there, remembering me and thinking about me.”

117) “I like the fact that guys are not emotional. They don’t get jealous of other men easily. And they don’t gossip about their male friends. But, women tend to get jealous very easily, and they love to gossip about other people to their female friends.”

118) “What I like most about my man is his self discipline to reach for his personal goals no matter the difficulties or obstacles (whether it comes from family or work), while at the same time he’s attentive, caring and kind to me and our children.”

119) “I love hugs by a pair of strong arms and hands, it gives me a sense of security and forever!”

120) “The man who can attract me will be the one who knows how to make me happy. And he has to make the effort to find out, not what he thinks or believes will make me happy, but what exactly will make me happy. It moves me when I see him trying and failing, but keeps trying anyway simply because he believes I’m the one he wants to be with all his life.”

121) “If you want me, stop talking about your past relationships. And don’t ever give a hint of anything that has to do with your past relationships. I love to feel I’m number one in your heart.”

122) “If you promise me a date tonight be sure you keep your promise unless it’s really a life-and-death matter that you have to cancel the appointment. Perhaps guys do not really feel there is anything wrong with canceling an appointment but it matters a lot to girls, like me. If there is any reason that you need to cancel the appointment or date, try to involve me. Say if your mother has a fall and you need to rush back, ask me if I can come over to help, more often than not I’ll be most willing to get myself involved! So don’t treat me as you would treat a guy, I’m not a guy and certainly I cannot behave or think like one.”

123) “I’m turned off by the guy who turns up for our date not well groomed or smelling good. So, please check yourself before you come!”

124) “If you stink, don’t ever think of coming near me.”

125) “The guy who can attract me is the one who knows how to make me feel important about myself. Hey, doesn’t every one likes to feel important about themselves? I may be very selfish here, but, if you can make me feel important I would think you are some one special. However, if you keep talking about yourself and your achievement, blah, blah, blah, I be turned off instantly.”

126) “It’s the thought that counts! My man baked a cake the other day and I was thinking ‘wow, this can’t be happening. I mean, only women would do all these kitchen things.’ And he was so sweet that he told me he did it for me! It was not very tasty, but who cares! I just love his thoughtfulness.”

127) “He doesn’t like to be disturbed when he’s reading his papers. But in order that I would not feel lonely or left out, he read his papers while curling up besides me! I think that’s very thoughtful of him!”

128) “If you are too talkative, it shows you are arrogant.”

129) “I have chosen him because he’s with me and helps me not by doing something, but by being someone.”

130) “If you show me that your interests are merely sexual, that you only care about your needs and wants, especially the sexual ones, sorry, but I have to turn you away.”

131) “What turns me on is that he makes the effort to try to get to know me, the real me, and to get connected with me first, before he advances any further. This is good, as it shows that he respects me, that he allows time for me to get to know him first.”

132) “I like my man to stay fit and healthy, visit the gym often, and even encourage me to exercise with him on a regular basis. It shows that he cares to look good for me as well as for himself”

133) “He wrote me a love song, sang it into a cassette with his guitar, and though it’s not very good, but I love the effort he’s making!”

134) “I do not like the macho guy without a heart!”

135) “Show me you are loving, compassionate, considerate, kind person, and knows how to turn me on, and I’ll fall for you. What the point of having a handsome face, beautiful body, well defined and bulky muscles, when you make me cook your favorite dish even when I’m sick, or appears cold and uninterested to what I’m saying.”

136) “I’m turned off when you are too easy to get. Come on, give me some challenges, and let me know you are a treasure hard to come by, and you’ll have my whole attention.”

137) “If you want to attract the love of your life, think of yourself as the product in those brilliant sales copy, make yourself scarce, tell me what’s in it for me if I choose you over hundreds and hundreds of others out there, find a way to tell me that you are unique, that if I didn’t want you, some one else will, and I’ll be at the losing end. There, if you can do it, you’ll capture my heart!”

138) “I’m turned off my guys who keep bragging about themselves.”

139) “One guy caught my attention. After the party, he just grabbed a mop and started to clean the floor! Tell me, which guys would even care to do that! I’m secretly thinking to myself: ‘wow, this guy’s different. Any girl who has him is indeed lucky!’”

140) “You cannot be too overly nice! There’s this guy who’s wooing me and he’s too nice to me; I have a secret name for him – Mr Okay. He’s always doing things my way, taking care not to offend me, so much so that I just get this gut feeling that life would be very, very boring, monotonous, and unchallenging with him around! In the end, I leave him.”

141) “Nowadays women are more independent. But, still, as a woman, I like being chased, and I like to give you a hard time. I’m not trying to be funny, difficult or what, but life’s exciting to get to know each other this way!”

142) “I get very nervous and anxious when I cannot get you on the phone, especially when you are not available during the time when you have promised you’ll call, so I will call and call until I can get through to you. If you want me, you’ll have to accept me for who I am and what I’ll be going through for a simple matter like this. Being able to get you is something I deem important.”

143) “I must confess, I’m someone who needs constant attention and reassurance. If you want to capture my heart and win me over, you’ll have to understand the kind of person I am, for I do not wish to hurt you, neither do I want to get hurt.”

144) “I would love you to call me up and tell me that you love me whenever you can. I’m literally jumping up and down for joy whenever the phone rings and I just get this gut feeling that it’s you on the other line (even though you may not see me and the joy and bliss on my face!). The sweetest words I love to hear from you are ‘I miss you!’, and I would put down everything I’m doing just to be there with you, for you, and talking to you for hours on the phone, with no other cares and worries! Why? Because I put you first before anything else in my life! I love you. I put my relationship with you my first priority in life ever since I get to know you, ever since we fall in love!”

145) “Like all girls, I put love first. To have an intimate and successful relationship with the love of our life is our greatest, biggest, proudest achievements in life! If my man loves me, I’ll be the envy of all of my girlfriends! As for men, I think we are number 2, and their work and career is their number 1. Does this explain the difference between men and women?”

146) “Whatever I do, whether I get frustrated, disappointment, confused, angered, unreasonable, in your eyes, all I want is more connection and intimacy with you.”

147) “Even when I’m attending to our children at home, and busy with all the day to day chores in the house, all of my thoughts and mind are constantly on you, and wondering how you are doing outside, whether you are safe and happy in whatever you are doing at that moment.”

148) “I found myself a wonderfully changed woman after I met the love of my life! Before I met him, I was a totally independent person, doing things for myself, and enjoying life for myself. Now that I’m sharing my life with another person, I found that I have totally dumped ‘my-self’! I didn’t really understand why. Now that I reflected on what’s happening, I felt I’m like living life for him; I’m always missing him, wondering what’s he’s doing, how’s he’s doing, whether he’s missing me and thinking about me, whether he’ll be happy to see me later, whether what I’m wearing is going to please him – my whole consciousness is always on him!”

149) “When a woman falls in love with you, be aware that it’s in her nature to keeping thinking about you, to keep missing you. She may not be aware of it; she may not even know it’s going to happen within her before the relationship! And perhaps you never know that you have so much power over a girl in a relationship, but now you do. If a girl seriously falls in love with you, you are going to live in her consciousness for the rest of her life with you. Literally every tiniest, single part of her life has got something to do with you. A dress she spots in the departmental store one day would remind her of her outing with you. A cake given to her by a friend isn’t just a cake – it evokes deep feelings of love and passion for you because you have gotten her a similar cake on her birthday last year! A ring from the phone in her office is going to make her jump, as she would be hoping that the call is from you – yes, that’s how much a girl can love you – as deep as the ocean – her love and feelings for you can’t even be measured!”

150) “There’s really nothing wrong with a girl who seems to be so possessive and obsessive about a relationship with you. It’s in her nature to love in this way, and she needs not have to put in a great deal of effort or time to love you so much. Don’t you feel that you are a lucky man, that you have a girl who truly, seriously, sincerely love you, and not pretend or act as if she really loves you? If she has to put in a great deal of time and effort to show her love for you, that’s very unnatural!”

151) “I don’t think you should say that I love too much, it seems pretty natural for me to love in this way as a woman. Do you call that ‘loving too much’? Then, how much is not too much?”

152) “It’s not that I’m feeling insecure or needy or that I like to nag or whine. I don’t. I’m not a naggy or whiney person, he knows this a long, long time ago even before we go steady. It’s just that I need certain particular responses from him in order to feel that I’m loved. I need that reciprocation that’s all. Is it asking too much? If he cannot attend to this inner needs of mine, he’s better off finding other people who would be more suitable for him!

153) “I need to know that when you are reading your papers, I can come behind your back and give you a kiss or a hug and you would respond, or even relate to me in a romantic way. That’s the moment when I’m opening up my heart. It’s not that I don’t believe in your love for me, or that I don’t believe that you love me. I know you do, but when I’m trying to connect with you in an emotional way, and you respond in a cold, distant way or manner, I would feel miserable and frustrated. I just hope you would understand my needs at that moment, that all I’m trying is to express my love for you, many times it’s out of the blue that I do it, and I hope you would be able to switch into your love mode, and reciprocate, even if it means only a few seconds, I’ll be satisfied and happy!”

154) “What does love mean to me as a girl? Perhaps I would put it this way, if I’m unhappy with my work, or something bad happens in my workplace one particular day, or if I’m unsuccessful in any projects I’m doing, I’ll recover pretty fast and would be feeling great again if the man of my life just comes along to lend me a shoulder to cry on, to talk to me, to accompany me, or even better to cheer me up! That’s how important my relationship is in my life! But, if I feel my man is not connecting with me in the way I want it, I would be miserable and hurt all day long, even if on that day I receive news that I’m going to get a promotion or a salary raise, I would not be happy. I just can’t!”

155) “My success in life is determined by how happy I’m with the love of my life!”

156) “I do not think that I’m too needy, desperate, or insecure; but once I have accepted you and chosen you as my mate; it would mean I’m putting you first in all areas of my life; to feel connected with you, and to express my love for you, I will always want to invest time and energy into this relationship by planning and creating special memories in advance. It’s as if when you are involved in a project in your workplace, because you view it as something very important, you’ll put your heart and soul into planning to ensure that it will be a success. Similarly, I’ll want to plan special events and occasions, including our dates and get-togethers in advance, and I’ll love to discuss with you about the plans so that we can have a happy time together!”

157) “If I feel things are not going well in my relationship, I would feel very guilty, hurt or even useless that I’m unable to make the relationship close, strong and lasting! This is how important a happy and harmonious relationship with you is to me!”

158) “It would seem as like I’m really irritating and bossy when trying to get your attention and time for myself. It’s not because I’m controlling or unreasonable, but it’s all because I want and I need to feel connected to you.”

159) “Men can separate their life from their relationship, and most men know how to get themselves emotionally charged for each of these two components on separate occasions. They don’t seem to connect them together and view them as separate areas. If it’s work they have to focus on now, they’ll give their 100%, and concentrate on getting a good job done. If it’s a problem they have to think about solving for their buddies, they’ll pour their whole heart and soul into resolving the issue, so much so that other concerns (including love and romance) have to step aside first. If it’s love they have to focus on during a particular moment, they’ll also give their 100%, and they can be absolutely romantic! For women it’s different. Once she has accepted a guy into her life, her relationship literally becomes her life! She finds it difficult to separate these two. She’ll have the man of her life in her mind throughout every single minutes of her day! Her thoughts are filled with images of him, during work, during play, in the midst of her meeting, and even during her leisure time!

160) “When we have gone into a relationship with you, whatever it is we do or we say, what we are doing is not about showing you how much we love you, but that you are already our first priority in life!”

161) “When you appear cold, unfeeling, and unresponsive to my trying to relate to you in a loving, romantic, intimate way; my first interpretation would be to think that you do not love me; my second interpretation would be you do not really love me as much as I love you; my third interpretation would be you have some one else in your heart. I have to draw all these conclusions because your pulling away would convince me these are the most probable reasons why you are so distant and cold suddenly. So, whatever my interpretation is, I’ll feel there is something very wrong with me; or that I’m incapable of attracting you and making you happy, and this makes me very frustrated, hurt, disappointment and confused. I want you to be happy, that the last thing I want is to see you frustrated and unhappy yourself too!”

162) “Guys, understand why girls are the way they are when once they have accepted you as their mate or partner. Girls put love and romance first things in their life!”

163) “I do not need your effort or energy to give me your attention. I just need to know, in small gestures, that you appreciate me for who I am – that I’m a girl who puts love first! It’s the little things that counts, and it doesn’t’ have to cost you time, energy or money!”

164) “If I detect that you are unhappy, and that there is a problem in our relationship, understand that it’s difficult for me to just behave as if every thing is all right. I will want to fix it, and see what both of us can do about it to create a more harmonious relationship.”

165) “I will persist in trying to find out how you are feeling when I suspect that you are not happy. It’s because I want to know if it is because I have done something wrong, or that I have made you angry. Bear in mind, that I put my love first; this is why I persist.”

166) “I’m concerned with the state of my relationship with my boyfriend, this is why I often want to talk about feelings with him, it really has nothing to do with being insecure or what.”

167) “He’s always complaining that I’m too controlling and always telling him how to do things. It’s not fair to jump to conclusions about me in this way! What I only need to hear from him are things like “Baby, you are so sweet to want to spend time with me, but can you let me finish my report first? It’s very important to me.”

168) “If I ask my man what’s bothering him because he seems distant, cold, and unresponsive, I would prefer him to let me know: “Honey, I’m thinking about a project I’m going to do with a client soon. I’ll attend to you as soon as my mind is clear okay?”

169) “When men are focused on something, it’s usually one thing at a time, and it can be said that they are really living in another world while in a particular state of mind. If he’s thinking about soccer, you can be sure that all he’s thinking about is soccer for that period of time, and it would exclude you (as well as other women, and this is good news!)”

170) “If I’m trying to get you to talk, to explain, to elaborate further, to make your feelings known, it’s not because I’m bossy, or controlling, or restrictive, or trying to change you, or trying to fix you, it’s because I’m concern that everything is alright.”

171) “If you feel that your guy is responding in an unloving, unromantic and distant way, it’s useful to think that guys have an inner secret chamber where once in a while they have to go in for their own retreat, to recharge, to live out their own fantasies, or even their dreams. No one else is allowed inside, except himself.”

172) “I’m attracted to the guy who can tell me ‘Tell me, how can I be the Number One boyfriend/husband to YOU?’”

173) “Women focused on love and on life at the same time. Men focused on love at one time, and the rest is focused on life – work, achievements, success, career, sports.”

174) “When a girl faces problem, she’ll think of the guy she loves – missing him, wishing he is there by her side, wishing he would give her the support she needs right there and then, thinking his image and face would even uplift her! When a guy faces a problem, he’ll think of the problem – the solutions, the people involved, how it’ll affect him and his loved ones, what’s going to happen, etc, etc, etc.”

175) “When you ask me to focus on my work, my life, my projects, my interests, and not to think of you so much, not to love you like the way I do; you are actually wishing that I’m you! – that I can love you like a man. Guess what, I CAN’T. I’m a woman.”

176) “You know, my thoughtfulness, devotion, consistency, and routine, could easily be mistaken by you are as being controlling, insecure, fearful, dependent, and needy.”

177) “I like to feel that I’m able to contribute to creating a loving and passionate relationship with you. This is why I need to feel that I’m doing something, and that I’m doing my part to make things happen. You can say I get my sense of achievement from all these doings, such as wanting to plan in advance for our date this weekend, desiring to go into all the details into making a party a great success, looking forward to discussing with you our trip this coming holiday, and such likes. You get a sense of achievement and success from planning and completing an important project in your work; in a similar fashion, I get my sense of achievement and success if I can contribute to making my relationship with you long lasting!”

178) “I met my boyfriend of 6 years at a friend’s party. He just came over to me and say Hello, and that’s where our conversation started. He wasn’t any more dashing or bold than other guys in the room, but he was very friendly, to me, as well to other guests in the room. He just struck me as kind of different from the rest, and that’s what I liked about him!”

179) “I like to play the hard-to-get game, well, you can say I’m a very cautious and alert girl, but if you want to win me over, you have to play to win! And, it’s just too bad if you give up too soon!”

180) “When a guy approached me, I’m secretly feeling impressed and happy! But, I will not want to show it all on my face or from my body language! Yes, I’m nervous too, just like him I guessed. If he came off as honest, sincere, and friendly, I’ll be attracted to him!”

181) “For me, there’s really no need to use any magical pickup lines. Just a simple hi or hello, and an interest to know me as a person is sufficient to break the ice. I prefer to be around with a guy who is relaxed, and who makes sure that I’m relaxed too. It’s better if he’s not somebody trying to be anybody.”

182) “If you are friendly, easy-going, and approachable, you’ll make a lot of friends! If you like a girl, it’s really unnecessary to do anything extra or be somebody different, just be in your normal self – the friendly, easy-going, and approachable person you are – and you start off by making friends with her, and getting to know her better. No expectations from her, and no expectations from yourself. And if she’s not responding, forget about her, she’s even not worth being a friend!”

183) “I’m attracted to the guy who is beautiful on the inside; that is very important to me. If he’s beautiful on the inside, he’s beautiful and attractive on the outside. It just shines through – his attitude, his self esteem, his confidence!”

184) “It’s not necessary how he looks or what he is wearing, if he is comfortable and relaxed with what’s he’s wearing, whether it’s a suit or a pair of shorts, he radiates an air of cheerfulness, positiveness, and an irresistible magnetism!”

185) “I think when girls are attracted to his real person, his personality, the looks become attractive! I guess this explains why some girls are attracted to other girls! It’s definitely not because of the looks and physique alone, but it has got something to do with their personality and character. Most of us are attracted to those inner qualities which we wish we possess in ourselves!”

186) “Looks are important, but it’s definitely not the deciding factor for me when it comes to choosing a mate. Years ago I fell in love with a man. There was something in him which attracted me to him – his self confidence, independence, sensitivity, and, his touch! When I did some self-reflection recently, I realized I’m attracted to those inner qualities which he possessed; that which I wished I had in myself. So, guys, do not lose heart if you do not have that handsome good looks or macho body, your character counts! I’ve now been with my boyfriend for 3 years we currently have a great relationship; I must say I’m more attracted to his attitude and how he carries himself.”

187) “Often if the guy who is interested in me preserve in his effort to capture my heart, I tend to believe that he’s really sincere and trustworthy.”

188) “When I like a guy, I would rather he makes the first move, to come up and talk, just being friendly. But, I would play it cool and not act too interested! So, it doesn’t mean I don’t like you, or I’m not interested!”

189) “The more I’m interested in you, the more I may pretend that I’m not, or that I don’t really care! So, what I really want to see is that you preserve in your effort in winning over my heart!”

190) “What turns me off on a first date is he just keeps talking about himself, his life and his family!”

191) “I wish I didn’t go for our first date. He just smashed my good impression of him. He’s handsome, but he stinks!”

192) “He talks too much of his feelings, and ends up interrupting me. He never bothers to listen. I just can’t imagine going out with such a guy again.”

193) “I just cannot understand why he keeps talking himself and how he feels all night during that dinner. I would rather he discusses a common interest BOTH of us has, talking about a topic BOTH of us would grow and benefit from.”

194) “I’m turned off by the guy who exaggerated his achievements and who he really was. And if he lied one time, that’s it. It would be the last time I would ever go out with him again. To attract me he has got to be honest and true to himself. If he lies one time, there’ll be a second time. And the last thing I want in a relationship is being kept in the dark when he had another woman in his life.”

195) “If I find out something he said that was not true or even not quite right, that’s it. He won’t get a second chance ever again.”

196) “If you realize that a girl puts love first, and how important you are to her, you’ll understand why you’ll never be given a second thought if you lie to her just once!”

197) “Any guy who is too full of himself and who brags about how many girls he has successfully dated in the past, is an instant turnoff.”

198) “The guy who can attract me is the one who doesn’t have unhealthy lifestyle or habits, such as drinking too much or smoking.”

199) “I would want my man to flirt with me and only me!”

200) “To attract me, you shouldn’t be talking about what you think or believe that I want or like! If you are not sure, put on your thinking caps and find out what your girl likes to do or likes to talk about!”