141) “Nowadays women are more independent. But, still, as a woman, I like being chased, and I like to give you a hard time. I’m not trying to be funny, difficult or what, but life’s exciting to get to know each other this way!”
142) “I get very nervous and anxious when I cannot get you on the phone, especially when you are not available during the time when you have promised you’ll call, so I will call and call until I can get through to you. If you want me, you’ll have to accept me for who I am and what I’ll be going through for a simple matter like this. Being able to get you is something I deem important.”
143) “I must confess, I’m someone who needs constant attention and reassurance. If you want to capture my heart and win me over, you’ll have to understand the kind of person I am, for I do not wish to hurt you, neither do I want to get hurt.”
144) “I would love you to call me up and tell me that you love me whenever you can. I’m literally jumping up and down for joy whenever the phone rings and I just get this gut feeling that it’s you on the other line (even though you may not see me and the joy and bliss on my face!). The sweetest words I love to hear from you are ‘I miss you!’, and I would put down everything I’m doing just to be there with you, for you, and talking to you for hours on the phone, with no other cares and worries! Why? Because I put you first before anything else in my life! I love you. I put my relationship with you my first priority in life ever since I get to know you, ever since we fall in love!”
145) “Like all girls, I put love first. To have an intimate and successful relationship with the love of our life is our greatest, biggest, proudest achievements in life! If my man loves me, I’ll be the envy of all of my girlfriends! As for men, I think we are number 2, and their work and career is their number 1. Does this explain the difference between men and women?”
146) “Whatever I do, whether I get frustrated, disappointment, confused, angered, unreasonable, in your eyes, all I want is more connection and intimacy with you.”
147) “Even when I’m attending to our children at home, and busy with all the day to day chores in the house, all of my thoughts and mind are constantly on you, and wondering how you are doing outside, whether you are safe and happy in whatever you are doing at that moment.”
148) “I found myself a wonderfully changed woman after I met the love of my life! Before I met him, I was a totally independent person, doing things for myself, and enjoying life for myself. Now that I’m sharing my life with another person, I found that I have totally dumped ‘my-self’! I didn’t really understand why. Now that I reflected on what’s happening, I felt I’m like living life for him; I’m always missing him, wondering what’s he’s doing, how’s he’s doing, whether he’s missing me and thinking about me, whether he’ll be happy to see me later, whether what I’m wearing is going to please him – my whole consciousness is always on him!”
149) “When a woman falls in love with you, be aware that it’s in her nature to keeping thinking about you, to keep missing you. She may not be aware of it; she may not even know it’s going to happen within her before the relationship! And perhaps you never know that you have so much power over a girl in a relationship, but now you do. If a girl seriously falls in love with you, you are going to live in her consciousness for the rest of her life with you. Literally every tiniest, single part of her life has got something to do with you. A dress she spots in the departmental store one day would remind her of her outing with you. A cake given to her by a friend isn’t just a cake – it evokes deep feelings of love and passion for you because you have gotten her a similar cake on her birthday last year! A ring from the phone in her office is going to make her jump, as she would be hoping that the call is from you – yes, that’s how much a girl can love you – as deep as the ocean – her love and feelings for you can’t even be measured!”
150) “There’s really nothing wrong with a girl who seems to be so possessive and obsessive about a relationship with you. It’s in her nature to love in this way, and she needs not have to put in a great deal of effort or time to love you so much. Don’t you feel that you are a lucky man, that you have a girl who truly, seriously, sincerely love you, and not pretend or act as if she really loves you? If she has to put in a great deal of time and effort to show her love for you, that’s very unnatural!”
151) “I don’t think you should say that I love too much, it seems pretty natural for me to love in this way as a woman. Do you call that ‘loving too much’? Then, how much is not too much?”
152) “It’s not that I’m feeling insecure or needy or that I like to nag or whine. I don’t. I’m not a naggy or whiney person, he knows this a long, long time ago even before we go steady. It’s just that I need certain particular responses from him in order to feel that I’m loved. I need that reciprocation that’s all. Is it asking too much? If he cannot attend to this inner needs of mine, he’s better off finding other people who would be more suitable for him!
153) “I need to know that when you are reading your papers, I can come behind your back and give you a kiss or a hug and you would respond, or even relate to me in a romantic way. That’s the moment when I’m opening up my heart. It’s not that I don’t believe in your love for me, or that I don’t believe that you love me. I know you do, but when I’m trying to connect with you in an emotional way, and you respond in a cold, distant way or manner, I would feel miserable and frustrated. I just hope you would understand my needs at that moment, that all I’m trying is to express my love for you, many times it’s out of the blue that I do it, and I hope you would be able to switch into your love mode, and reciprocate, even if it means only a few seconds, I’ll be satisfied and happy!”
154) “What does love mean to me as a girl? Perhaps I would put it this way, if I’m unhappy with my work, or something bad happens in my workplace one particular day, or if I’m unsuccessful in any projects I’m doing, I’ll recover pretty fast and would be feeling great again if the man of my life just comes along to lend me a shoulder to cry on, to talk to me, to accompany me, or even better to cheer me up! That’s how important my relationship is in my life! But, if I feel my man is not connecting with me in the way I want it, I would be miserable and hurt all day long, even if on that day I receive news that I’m going to get a promotion or a salary raise, I would not be happy. I just can’t!”
155) “My success in life is determined by how happy I’m with the love of my life!”
156) “I do not think that I’m too needy, desperate, or insecure; but once I have accepted you and chosen you as my mate; it would mean I’m putting you first in all areas of my life; to feel connected with you, and to express my love for you, I will always want to invest time and energy into this relationship by planning and creating special memories in advance. It’s as if when you are involved in a project in your workplace, because you view it as something very important, you’ll put your heart and soul into planning to ensure that it will be a success. Similarly, I’ll want to plan special events and occasions, including our dates and get-togethers in advance, and I’ll love to discuss with you about the plans so that we can have a happy time together!”
157) “If I feel things are not going well in my relationship, I would feel very guilty, hurt or even useless that I’m unable to make the relationship close, strong and lasting! This is how important a happy and harmonious relationship with you is to me!”
158) “It would seem as like I’m really irritating and bossy when trying to get your attention and time for myself. It’s not because I’m controlling or unreasonable, but it’s all because I want and I need to feel connected to you.”
159) “Men can separate their life from their relationship, and most men know how to get themselves emotionally charged for each of these two components on separate occasions. They don’t seem to connect them together and view them as separate areas. If it’s work they have to focus on now, they’ll give their 100%, and concentrate on getting a good job done. If it’s a problem they have to think about solving for their buddies, they’ll pour their whole heart and soul into resolving the issue, so much so that other concerns (including love and romance) have to step aside first. If it’s love they have to focus on during a particular moment, they’ll also give their 100%, and they can be absolutely romantic! For women it’s different. Once she has accepted a guy into her life, her relationship literally becomes her life! She finds it difficult to separate these two. She’ll have the man of her life in her mind throughout every single minutes of her day! Her thoughts are filled with images of him, during work, during play, in the midst of her meeting, and even during her leisure time!
160) “When we have gone into a relationship with you, whatever it is we do or we say, what we are doing is not about showing you how much we love you, but that you are already our first priority in life!”